Guest guest Posted June 27, 2006 Report Share Posted June 27, 2006 In the unconditional/aware parenting school of thought, praise is seen as problematical and based in judgment and what is taught instead is acknowledgement which is a way to nurture others and ourselves that is descriptive and nonjudgmental. It leaves room to express our feelings. At the same time, acknowledgement promotes internally anchored self-esteem. Here's a summary of an article geared toward adult to adult communication by Deanne Repich, the Director of the National Institute of Anxiety and Stress. The full article can be found at: http://www.conqueranxiety.com/The+Problem+with+Praise-FD9.html The Problem with Praise: Praise is often CONDITIONAL, Praise usually implies a JUDGMENT, Praise conditions us to look OUTSIDE of ourselves for our feelings of self-worth,Praise focuses on the END RESULT rather than the process. Praise does not often see who we really are. INSTEAD OF PRAISE: Acknowledgement = Describe your observations, Reflect emotions, Ask questions Talking to Yourself and Others In a Nurturing Way -- Transforming Praise into Acknowledgement Examples: Acknowledgment: "You helped your coworker with his proposal. He really appreciated it." versus: Praise: "You're a nice person because you helped him with his proposal." Acknowledgment: "You've been working on conquering that fear for several months, and now you have overcome it!" versus: Praise: "You're such a brave person!" The next time you hear yourself using praise in your self-talk or in your dealings with others, try acknowledgement instead. It is a freeing experience! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2006 Report Share Posted June 28, 2006 Excellent article. Thanks for forwarding it. This reflects my thinking too - I am regularly criticized for not praising; Of course this has been addressed by Gurus like Osho before but nice to see it in another context. Ammachi, "amalia_darling94804" <amaliadarling wrote: > > In the unconditional/aware parenting school of thought, praise is > seen as problematical and based in judgment and what is taught > instead is acknowledgement which is a way to nurture others and > ourselves that is descriptive and nonjudgmental. It leaves room to > express our feelings. At the same time, acknowledgement promotes > internally anchored self-esteem. > > Here's a summary of an article geared toward adult to adult > communication by Deanne Repich, the Director of the National > Institute of Anxiety and Stress. The full article can be found at: > > http://www.conqueranxiety.com/The+Problem+with+Praise-FD9.html > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2006 Report Share Posted June 29, 2006 thankyou dear brother you have expanded this childs awareness.....a homeless man was once asked ,"what is more important,to be praised, or just acknowledged".his reply was that he just wanted a sandwhich and why did life have to be so complicated?.. we are so intellectual sometimes.we "think" about stuff so much .AMMAs sun is "thinking" about what you said and you will in turn "think" about what this child has said.. who is willing to stop "thinking" and LIVE in their HEARTS? >"Ravi Chivukula" <ravichivukula (AT) hotmail (DOT) com> >Ammachi >Ammachi > Re: the problem with praise (was FYI ) >Wed, 28 Jun 2006 18:01:38 -0000 > >Excellent article. Thanks for forwarding it. This reflects my thinking >too - I am regularly criticized for not praising; Of course this has >been addressed by Gurus like Osho before but nice to see it in another >context. > >Ammachi, "amalia_darling94804" ><amaliadarling wrote: > > > > In the unconditional/aware parenting school of thought, praise is > > seen as problematical and based in judgment and what is taught > > instead is acknowledgement which is a way to nurture others and > > ourselves that is descriptive and nonjudgmental. It leaves room to > > express our feelings. At the same time, acknowledgement promotes > > internally anchored self-esteem. > > > > Here's a summary of an article geared toward adult to adult > > communication by Deanne Repich, the Director of the National > > Institute of Anxiety and Stress. The full article can be found at: > > > > http://www.conqueranxiety.com/The+Problem+with+Praise-FD9.html > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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