Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 Namaskar Great Astrologers, My name is Rohit. My Girlfirend left me as we had a fight. It has been 2 months since we got seperated. She says that I broke her heart and she does not trust me anymore. She says that she will neither marry me nor will she marry anyone else. She says that she will remain unmarried throughout her life. Can anyone tell me when we would patchup as I am unable to live without her. Can someone please tell me when she will come back to me? My details: R. Rohit Kumar Dob: 22nd October 1981 Time: 3:15am Place of Birth: Hyderabad I am in great trouble and i am missing her a lot. Please help me. Thanks, Rohit. ------------------------ Sponsor --------------------~--> Home is just a click away. Make your home page now. http://us.click./DHchtC/3FxNAA/yQLSAA/.8XolB/TM --~-> <*> vedic astrology/ <*> vedic astrology <*> Your Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2006 Report Share Posted May 20, 2006 Dear Rohit, No one seems to have answered your letters, so I thought I would take a stab at it and speak frankly. After reading all your newsgroup posts and looking at your chart, I'd like to make a few comments that might be of use to you. But first let's do a brief review of your behavior during the last five years: -Though the families of both you and your girlfriend were against the marriage, you ran away, secretly got married, and her parents were forced to accept your marriage. This secret marriage happened under your Venus/Rahu dasha about 5 years ago, and you have Rahu with the Moon in the 12th house of hidden affairs for a secret and sometimes troubled emotional life. With Moon in Cancer you are very sensitive to rejection and that's understandable, and Rahu with the Moon can indicate occasional upsetments and inner turbulence. You're more sensitive lately because transiting Saturn is in the 12H with your Moon and that makes it difficult to be objective about your own behavior and feelings. -Under your agreement with the parents on both sides, you were supposed to get your degree and a job and then get remarried. Since at the time, according to your own words, you were just 20 years old and legally not eligible for marriage, your parents came to the decision that you could remarry after you completed your graduation. But have you? Between June of 2004 and Feb of 2006, you were running Venus/Jupiter, and Jupiter is the 5L of higher education and education looked promising. Both you and your girl friend were still living at home on the financial expenses of your respective families because you were not able to be together on your own. -You wrote, "I have sacrificed a lot of things for my girlfriend, including my studies and health... I also cheated and troubled my parents a lot." The free-wheeling Venus/Jupiter period ended in February of this year and now you are running Venus/Saturn in your dashas, and unfortunately it looks like certain realities have started to make themselves felt, and it's going to have to be up to you to straighten out this situation. You might be able to do it if you take a closer look at your behavior and some of the questionable decisions you've made during the last five years. What I'm getting to is this: If you really want to make a new start and have any chance in this situation, you might want to start out by apologizing to both families for making such a mess out of things. I'm know I'm sounding direct here, but you made some agreements with both sets of parents that you would get your degree. This you have not done, and yet you want this marriage to succeed even though you're not in a position to support her or a family of your own. In other words, it looks like you let your parents down... you let her down... and worst of all, you let yourself down. To make a fresh start, start taking responsibility for yourself under your Venus/Saturn dasha and realize that you have promises to keep if you want to be on your own. Your degree and job is the magic key to be with her, if possible, or with anyone. This means leaving her alone for now and stop blaming her for not loving you when you haven't created the financial means to properly support yourself or her. You'd be better off by making a greater effort to step into your maturity as an adult. When you complete your degree, if you haven't done so already, she'll probably hear about it and know that you're serious about getting your life together and then maybe you can talk again. And your own particular life means doing things for yourself first, not for her or your family--but for your own satisfaction and well-being first. That makes a man attractive to a woman. Women do not much go for men in the long-run who sacrifice the very things that make the relationship possible to begin with: taking care of one's studies, one's job, one's health. You also have to keep in mind that you may have to deal with a certain amount of disappointments or delays during your Sadhesati period. But this period is as much about completions and emotional maturity as it is about delays. It's also possible that you will be married more than once, the second time being in 2010 while you are in your Venus/Mercury period and Mercury is the 2L of your family life, with transiting Saturn passing through the 2H as well. In the meantime, please stop blaming her for letting you down. I truly feel that she's as disappointed as you are, but you must make a new start by finally taking responsibility for yourself and building your own self-confidence without leaning on anyone. You can help this process by strengthening your Sun weak in Libra. And if there's any unhappiness about what you are studying for your degree, change it as soon as possible so you can find some satisfaction in it. You can be very warm and wonderful, good with the public and pleasing in manner. But you must apply yourself consistently and be as interested in your own well-being as you are in your girlfriend. Then bless the current situation for what it is, because it looks to me that the maturity you gain from it will make your future happiness possible with her or someone else. Best wishes, Haizen Paige vedic astrology, <rohit_singh wrote: > > Namaskar Great Astrologers, > > My name is Rohit. My Girlfirend left me as we had a fight. It has been 2 > months since we got seperated. She says that I broke her heart and she > does not trust me anymore. She says that she will neither marry me nor > will she marry anyone else. She says that she will remain unmarried > throughout her life. Can anyone tell me when we would patchup as I am > unable to live without her. Can someone please tell me when she will > come back to me? > > My details: > R. Rohit Kumar > Dob: 22nd October 1981 > Time: 3:15am > Place of Birth: Hyderabad > > I am in great trouble and i am missing her a lot. Please help me. > > Thanks, > > Rohit. > > > > > ------------------------ Sponsor --------------------~--> Everything you need is one click away. Make your home page now. http://us.click./AHchtC/4FxNAA/yQLSAA/.8XolB/TM --~-> <*> vedic astrology/ <*> vedic astrology <*> Your Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2006 Report Share Posted May 20, 2006 Describe correctly what has made her feel frustrated. Your lagna lord is debilitated, in malefic Navamsa and Nakshatra without any benefic aspect. P.Kumar - <rohit_singh (AT) dell (DOT) com> <vedic astrology> Friday, May 19, 2006 10:01 PM [vedic astrology] Please help me to get back my love Namaskar Great Astrologers, My name is Rohit. My Girlfirend left me as we had a fight. It has been 2 months since we got seperated. She says that I broke her heart and she does not trust me anymore. She says that she will neither marry me nor will she marry anyone else. She says that she will remain unmarried throughout her life. Can anyone tell me when we would patchup as I am unable to live without her. Can someone please tell me when she will come back to me? My details: R. Rohit Kumar Dob: 22nd October 1981 Time: 3:15am Place of Birth: Hyderabad I am in great trouble and i am missing her a lot. Please help me. Thanks, Rohit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2006 Report Share Posted May 20, 2006 Dear Rohit, YOur chart does show that the fight must have been due to an exceedingly bad temper from your side though probably on judgemental balance you may have been on the right side. You have a tendency to take a very offensive profile at times and difficult for the other person to calm you down. Is that right? Pran Razdan vedic astrology, <rohit_singh wrote: > > Namaskar Great Astrologers, > > My name is Rohit. My Girlfirend left me as we had a fight. It has been 2 > months since we got seperated. She says that I broke her heart and she > does not trust me anymore. She says that she will neither marry me nor > will she marry anyone else. She says that she will remain unmarried > throughout her life. Can anyone tell me when we would patchup as I am > unable to live without her. Can someone please tell me when she will > come back to me? > > My details: > R. Rohit Kumar > Dob: 22nd October 1981 > Time: 3:15am > Place of Birth: Hyderabad > > I am in great trouble and i am missing her a lot. Please help me. > > Thanks, > > Rohit. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2006 Report Share Posted May 22, 2006 We had a fight and I totally lost my temper.I used harsh words towards her and also raised my hand on her. In depression, she complained about it to her father. So her father called me up and started scolding me. He also started insulting my parents. I could not take this and spoke to her father in a rude manner which led to a huge quarell. I had to use harsh words on her father too. this made the girl angry as I insulted her and her parents. She says that i broke her heart and she hates to see my face. I apologized her but she is not getting convinced. I realized my mistake and want her back. Our relationship is 10 years old. As our parents were against our marriage, both of us ran away 5 years back. But at that time i was only 20 years old and was legaly not eligible for marriage. However, our parents had to accept for our marriage because in our community no one would get ready to marry a girl who had ran away with someone. our parents came to a conclusion that once i complete my studies and get a good job, they would get us married. NOw I am done with my studies and have been working in a reputed firm for the past 2 years. From the time we ran away till now, me & my grilfriend used to see each other once or twice a week and used to speak over the phone daily for hours & hours together. 5 years back on 27th November, i also filled her maang with sindur & tied a mangalsutra in her neck. Since then, we both used to treat each other as Husband & Wife even tough we were unmarried for the rest of the world. We also used to celebrate our marriage aniversary every year. We also had a physical relationship numerous times. The girl loved me very much but my gruesome act made her leave me. Now as she does not carry a good reputaion in our caste & community, it is likely that no one would come forward to marry her. Even if some one comes, it would be only for the huge dowry amount his parents would give her. Will such a person keep her happy? Can a husbad tolerate that his wife had a sexual relationship with a many for 10 years before marriage?? When asked all these questions to her, she says that to avoid such troubles, she would remain unmarried life long but would never marry me as I insulted her and her parents. I apologized her mare than a lakh times but she does not even want to see my face. Now I have realized my mistake & want her back at any cost. i cant live without her. Please help me. Thanks, Rohit. ________________________________ vedic astrology [vedic astrology] On Behalf Of P Kumar Saturday, May 20, 2006 6:13 PM vedic astrology Re: [vedic astrology] Please help me to get back my love Describe correctly what has made her feel frustrated. Your lagna lord is debilitated, in malefic Navamsa and Nakshatra without any benefic aspect. P.Kumar - <rohit_singh (AT) dell (DOT) com> <vedic astrology> Friday, May 19, 2006 10:01 PM [vedic astrology] Please help me to get back my love Namaskar Great Astrologers, My name is Rohit. My Girlfirend left me as we had a fight. It has been 2 months since we got seperated. She says that I broke her heart and she does not trust me anymore. She says that she will neither marry me nor will she marry anyone else. She says that she will remain unmarried throughout her life. Can anyone tell me when we would patchup as I am unable to live without her. Can someone please tell me when she will come back to me? My details: R. Rohit Kumar Dob: 22nd October 1981 Time: 3:15am Place of Birth: Hyderabad I am in great trouble and i am missing her a lot. Please help me. Thanks, Rohit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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