marriage compatibility-some questions

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Dear All:

 

I took a voluntary break from this group as some of my posts had

earlier caused some controversy. But, I have been following this

forum with interest with some wonderful posts from Dakshina Guruji

regarding marital compatibility issues based on queries of members.

 

Shreenadhji has raised some fundamental queries about marital

compatibility for research. I think Guruji will not directly answer

to that post because he is averse to taking a high ground while

researching Rishi Pramanas and accepted traditions. He will choose to

ignore queries like " Is compatibility recommended in the Vedas?".

So, I thought I will fill in. Guruji used to say that the marital

compatibility as per accepted traditions is a must unless one of the

following three conditions is satisfied:

 

1) The couple are in deep love and are firm about marrying each

other. This is called "Mana porutham" - compatibility of the minds

that have taken a liking to each other. Care should be taken to

ensure that this is not mere infatuation.

 

2) It is a Guru Niyamanam/ Deiva Niyamanam, i.e., the Guru of a

person ordains that he should marry such and such person based on his

intuition, or when some miraculous guidances due to Divine

Intervention indicate that the marriage between two couples should be

solemnized ( a very rare occurrence except in the lives of persons

living a highly pious life). Infact Guruji's marriage itself was

Deiva Niyamanam....Their horoscopes were not compatible

astrologically. He got a clear guidance that he will be meeting his

bride at an appointed time on an appointed day. He did not even

venture out of his house on that day, and lo... at the exact time as

per his intuition, he got a proposal and the marriage took place

within 1 month. I do not think Guruji will want to discuss his

personal life here.... But, this is just for information of the forum

members that there are other criteria that determine marital matters

besides traditional compatibility factors.

 

3) The bride is won in a contest as in ancient swayamvarams which is

the prefered marriage for kshatriyas or as kanya daanam for an expert

in vedic sacrifices when the father of the bride gives the girl in

marriage to the expert who has shown rare tapasya powers which is

applicable to vedic brahmins. This third condition is no longer

relevant in these modern times.

 

I think forum members would have also noted that some of the

factors that guruji has been writing about are not traditional factors

but based on horoscopic factors like mutual position of lagna lords,

marital yogas, and ashtavarga factors. These have much relevance even

today and are based on much individual research from guruji's

professional practice. These are the methods which he teaches to his

students in his personal classes.

 

Blessed be.