Hope

[Guest guest]

Hi Manoshi Ji, I do not think that you lack in self confidence, I

like your thoughts and articles a lot... please do share with us

more!!

 

Tanvir.

 

 

, "Manoshi Chatterjee"

<khallopapa> wrote:

> <<<And if he has no longer interest then we can simply take that he

> might lack in self confidence or clarity of mind [And it helps us

> more not to put an effort to draw his attention again]. That is fine

> for both us and the person we are getting the impression of. As we

> seem to be agreed on the point, everyone is entitled to believe what

> he wishes.>>>

>

> Its not the lack of self-confidence but ignoring and especially

when

> there is no point in trying to prove the point which the other

> person doesnt believe and brings the discussion to a personal

level

> as the same for him as I dont believe in what he believes in. We

> have both put forward our points and we don agree so thats the end.

>

> Thanks Tanvir to act as a good moderator whenever required. I think

> we should close this thread here.

>

> --Manoshi

>

>

>

> , "Tanvir Chowdhury"

> <lord_narayana@l...> wrote:

> > You are welcome. As you already understood that we can do nothing

> > more than offering our views sometimes, then when a person does

> not

> > feel interested in continuing in a discussion anymore [for

> whatever

> > reason it is] we can not force him to do so or have an effort to

> draw

> > his attention to it over and over by putting a same question many

> > times. After offering our views we can only wait and see if he

> > replies or not, if he does not, we can only remind once few while

> > later, that is the maximum we should do.

> >

> > And if he has no longer interest then we can simply take that he

> > might lack in self confidence or clarity of mind [And it helps us

> > more not to put an effort to draw his attention again]. That is

> fine

> > for both us and the person we are getting the impression of. As

we

> > seem to be agreed on the point, everyone is entitled to believe

> what

> > he wishes.

> >

> > Best wishes,

> > Tanvir.

> >

> > , "Yajna" <yves>

wrote:

> > >

> > > Dear Tanvir,

> > >

> > > you wrote:

> > > Questioning the self does not mean coming up with a new answer

> each

> > > time. A new answer does not mean that it is better than the

> previous

> > > one.

> > >

> > > -Yes.

> > >

> > > And what to do when someone questions himself about the issue,

> > > prompted by a discussion, and remains in the same conclusion,

and

> > > takes his positin on the issue...

> > >

> > > - There is nothing to do. It is this person's choice. You

cannot

> do

> > more

> > > then offering your point of view. It is to the next person to

> > consider if it

> > > is valuable to him or not.

> > >

> > > then should we leave him to his

> > > conclusion or again keep saying to reconsider the decision even

> > after

> > > he thinks he has taken his position?

> > >

> > > - As long as there is an opening and a sincere desire to share

> on

> > both side

> > > it is good to continue. Once both or one of the sides decides

> that

> > he

> > > doesn't want to continue then the discussion is closed, I

guess.

> > Otherwise

> > > it is pestering. But as long as one gives you a point of view

> you

> > should

> > > expect an answer in return. It is a matter of respect.

> > >

> > > And I do not think that a person who does not question his

> knowledge

> > > and belief, or asks himself about the issue would continue the

> > > discussion for a while.

> > >

> > > - I am not so sure about that, some people just want

> gratification

> > because

> > > they lack self-confidence. Or other may have self-confidence

but

> > lack of

> > > clarity of mind. We would have to look at their Sun and Moon.

> > >

> > > Best regards

> > > Thank you for sharing your thoughts

> > > Yves