Guest guest Posted December 14, 2005 Report Share Posted December 14, 2005 Dear Rui: God bless you, I found the answer. Three days ago, I self-diagnosed myself as having ADD/ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder). It atleast gave me some peace to understand all my life's miseries since childhood, such as: being ridiculed (and called unspeakable names) at school by students constantly while teachers were complecent about it, getting beatings from teachers, problems making friends at school, frequent job changes (either quitting or getting fired), unstable career, starting many things and never finishing ONE (i played chess at University level and my biggest strength was knight which has 8 possible moves in eight directions), unfinished projects and work in progress, problems with paper filing & paying bill on time (disorganised), rage and short fused temper (temper is much better now); daydreaming, going at tangents in conversation with other people, not being able to read peoples subtle reactions on their faces, constantly talking or talking before thinking, not being able to sit at one place for even a short duration either while studying or working, always fidgety and moving my fingers on the desk in classroom and getting reprimended from the teachers; extremely messy home and office desk (lack of organisation), lack of time management (no sense of time), getting late everywhere consistently, forgetting things here and there, laziness, depression & anxiety due to low self-esteem as well due to frustration of not utilizing potential, missed opportunities and chances in life. I had extremely high intelligence (I had scored perfect on GMAT quantitatives (for MBA entrance, 18 years ago)) in HALF the alloted time. High intelligence is one of the sources of trouble, everyone had expectations yet bewildered and confused; poor listening (my ex-wife constantly complained that i would not listen to her) while I "could not" listen as my thoughts is elsewhere. At least, I have no one to blame including myself. Besides, my sixth house and twelfth houses speak of mysterious illness (ADD/ADHD is one of the latest disorders since 1980, most difficult to diagnose ever; before 1980 society just shunned these kids), enemies, self undoing. I am trying to start my life, with a new realization that I am different from others (well, actually everyone is different (not superior or inferior) in some sense, that is HOW god created the world), that i should not compare my achievements, shortcomings strenghts and weaknesses with other people; that I am to ACCEPT everything entirely without guilt, blame, ego and resentment; And work with strengths and be aware of weaknesses and not be hard on myself or anyone. JUST ACCEPT. Not to have high dreams and not start something new before finishing previous projects, work, errands... anything. that I should have empathy and compassion for everyone without judgment of good or bad attributes (if one judges, then one judges god's creation), On a lighter note: I was very upset on Sunday afternoon. I cried loudly like a kid, then I was praying and talking to GOD for few minutes. Asking for mercy. Then I forgave each and every person in my life, that i remembered, and I asked GOD to forgave them too. Then I went to my computer and typed words "extreme lazy" and "procrastination" hoping to find a clue to my situation OR a group where I can find help. Procastination took me to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Procrastination Where I found a clue on ADHD, then I found a dozen websites on ADHD where I found other people with similar attributes as myself. I have been reading continuously on this and bought 3 self-help books. ONe of them: "driven to distraction", is the first comprehensive written on it. I totally feel "blessed" at this moment for having found the name to syndrome or disorder or style of living that I had (it is genetic or biological). i do not have to knock myself with anger or frustration anymore. I sincerely want to give special thanks to Dearest Wendy, Rui, krishnan, and other people from last year namely, ravindramani, Babu and scores of other learned members, who have been answering my queries and have been supportive in my times of Need. With Lovingkindness.. All beings be happy Rajesh -- In jyotish-vidya, RPM <rupamede> wrote: > > Dear Rajesh, > > Ask yourself: "What is the reason for my laziness, lack of motivation, depression, erratic routine" and I think you will find the answer. > > Jupiter is a benefic planet for Aries and you are doing its benefic dasha plus those are the exact months I predicted Jupiter would be transiting your Sun and aspecting your ascendant degree. > > Sometimes those temporary positions can change a person's life in such a way that you never want to come back to the life you had. Think of all that may come from this temporary change. If nothing changes, then can you not come back to the USA? I think that having positive thinking may also help a lot, don't you think? This proximity with your son, does it not excite you? > > Best wishes, Rui. > > peacejoylovenj <rrgupta97> wrote: Dear Learned Members; > > I am going through a dilemma. Help me. > > I was offered a job with the govt (taxation deptt) in Canada, which > is supposedly temporary till June, 2006. I am in USA, currently, > trying to find a job (laziness, lack of motivation, depression, > erratic routine, etc). > > My car broke down (Happened at the same day, the job was offered!! > Talk about Saturn being in the house of losses, while lord of 10 and > 11th), adding to the problem of moving and mobility. > > What should I do. Take something small and temporary and MOVE > (without car) OR stay put, where I am, and keep looking for > opportunities. > > RG > > > > jyotish-vidya, RPM <rupamede> wrote: > > > > Dear Rajesh, > > I am on holidays so only now I could look at your chart. Not sure > anyone has already told you that you're running your Jupiter period > and that Jupiter is transiting your 7th and your debilitated Sun? > This means that maybe soon (from end of Dec to May 2006) you will > probably see your son again. Jupiter is a benefic planet for Aies > and in this case also the 9th lord of foreign travel, long journeys > of short duration and life in foreign lands, so I would say your son > may visit you in India... or more likely you will visit him in > Canada because all happens in your 7th aspecting your ascendant. > > This is just a temporary blessing indicated by transits and > hopefully since you are doing your Jupiter dasha maybe the Divine > Planet will be strong enough to help your Sun and most of all you > since it will be aspecting your Ascendant degree from end of > December to May 2006. > > Best wishes, Rui. > > > > peacejoylovenj <rrgupta97> wrote: I was born November 7, > 1968 17:25 Hoshiarpur, Punjab India > > 31n32,75e54 > > My particular question regarding my career is: what should i be > > doing whether a job or my own business. (I have been without a > job > > for the last 5 years, and I worked in 1999,2000 and before that > > without job for 2 years), I lived in USA and Canada for the past > 16 > > years. > > > > My son was born july 28, 1997, 4:37 AM Toronto Ontario Canada > 43n39, > > 79w23 > > I have not seen him for the last 20 months due to problems with > my > > in-laws after the divorce. My question with regards to my son: > How > > is his future affected with regards to divorce and my not being > able > > to seeing him, plus my relationship with him in futre. > > > > My ex-wife was born february 5, 1970, 16:40 (4:40pm) chandigarh > > india,. She is very vicious person (with her parents), > fraudulently > > cheated me of money, through changing court order papers along > with > > her lawyer (and lawyer conspiring with them!!) in year 2001. I do > > not find enough courage to fight out court battles with them to > see > > my son. My question: Can I pursue matters relating to court NOW? > > > > > > thanking you in advance > > > > Rajesh > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Astrology > chart Vedic > astrology Personal > reading > > > > > > > > > > > > > Visit your group "jyotish-vidya" on the web. > > > > > > jyotish-vidya > > > > Terms of > Service. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > To help you stay safe and secure online, we've developed the all > new Security Centre. > > > > > > > Astrology chart Vedic astrology Personal reading > > > > > > Visit your group "jyotish-vidya" on the web. > > > jyotish-vidya > > Terms of Service. > > > > Cars NEW - sell your car and browse thousands of new and used cars online search now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2005 Report Share Posted December 14, 2005 Dear Rajesh, You Wrote: >>poor listening (my ex-wife constantly complained that i would not listen to her) while I "could not" listen as my thoughts is elsewhere.<< Your (astrology) adviser also complains of this :-( Previous Advice: >>The uncertainty that afflicts your mind (emotions, confidence, belief) making it difficult for you to make a decision, is due certainly to natal Saturn's aspect on Moon etc..<< Attention deficit disorder (ADD) and the like are due to affliction to the grahas/bhavas associated with mind. You've been shown the astrological indications for this (in your chart) and been given the astrological remedy to ease this affliction...at least in part. But still you find it difficult to heed that advice and begin the mrtyunjaya japa. Your self-diagnosis is "on the mark" and you're taking steps to understand this...this is a right step. But why not get straight to the cause and make every effort to ease this affliction of Saturn. Best Wishes, Mrs. Wendy http://JyotishVidya.com ______________________________ - "peacejoylovenj" <rrgupta97 <jyotish-vidya> Thursday, December 15, 2005 1:23 PM Re: Attention Rui, Wendy and Krishnan. God bless you guys Dear Rui: God bless you, I found the answer. Three days ago, I self-diagnosed myself as having ADD/ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder). It atleast gave me some peace to understand all my life's miseries since childhood, such as: being ridiculed (and called unspeakable names) at school by students constantly while teachers were complecent about it, getting beatings from teachers, problems making friends at school, frequent job changes (either quitting or getting fired), unstable career, starting many things and never finishing ONE (i played chess at University level and my biggest strength was knight which has 8 possible moves in eight directions), unfinished projects and work in progress, problems with paper filing & paying bill on time (disorganised), rage and short fused temper (temper is much better now); daydreaming, going at tangents in conversation with other people, not being able to read peoples subtle reactions on their faces, constantly talking or talking before thinking, not being able to sit at one place for even a short duration either while studying or working, always fidgety and moving my fingers on the desk in classroom and getting reprimended from the teachers; extremely messy home and office desk (lack of organisation), lack of time management (no sense of time), getting late everywhere consistently, forgetting things here and there, laziness, depression & anxiety due to low self-esteem as well due to frustration of not utilizing potential, missed opportunities and chances in life. I had extremely high intelligence (I had scored perfect on GMAT quantitatives (for MBA entrance, 18 years ago)) in HALF the alloted time. High intelligence is one of the sources of trouble, everyone had expectations yet bewildered and confused; poor listening (my ex-wife constantly complained that i would not listen to her) while I "could not" listen as my thoughts is elsewhere. At least, I have no one to blame including myself. Besides, my sixth house and twelfth houses speak of mysterious illness (ADD/ADHD is one of the latest disorders since 1980, most difficult to diagnose ever; before 1980 society just shunned these kids), enemies, self undoing. I am trying to start my life, with a new realization that I am different from others (well, actually everyone is different (not superior or inferior) in some sense, that is HOW god created the world), that i should not compare my achievements, shortcomings strenghts and weaknesses with other people; that I am to ACCEPT everything entirely without guilt, blame, ego and resentment; And work with strengths and be aware of weaknesses and not be hard on myself or anyone. JUST ACCEPT. Not to have high dreams and not start something new before finishing previous projects, work, errands... anything. that I should have empathy and compassion for everyone without judgment of good or bad attributes (if one judges, then one judges god's creation), On a lighter note: I was very upset on Sunday afternoon. I cried loudly like a kid, then I was praying and talking to GOD for few minutes. Asking for mercy. Then I forgave each and every person in my life, that i remembered, and I asked GOD to forgave them too. Then I went to my computer and typed words "extreme lazy" and "procrastination" hoping to find a clue to my situation OR a group where I can find help. Procastination took me to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Procrastination Where I found a clue on ADHD, then I found a dozen websites on ADHD where I found other people with similar attributes as myself. I have been reading continuously on this and bought 3 self-help books. ONe of them: "driven to distraction", is the first comprehensive written on it. I totally feel "blessed" at this moment for having found the name to syndrome or disorder or style of living that I had (it is genetic or biological). i do not have to knock myself with anger or frustration anymore. I sincerely want to give special thanks to Dearest Wendy, Rui, krishnan, and other people from last year namely, ravindramani, Babu and scores of other learned members, who have been answering my queries and have been supportive in my times of Need. With Lovingkindness.. All beings be happy Rajesh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2005 Report Share Posted December 14, 2005 Dear Rui, Yes indeed you're correct. Rajesh recently commenced Rahu PD (in sign of dasa lord Jupiter who, in transit, occupies nakshatra of Rahu. Jupiter's moolatrikona is 9th...solutions to problems, support of nature, remedies etc.. Jupiter's current aspect on lagna is good in terms of initiative(3rd) and solutions(9th). However, for the most favourable outcome, the simultaneous aspect of Saturn (transiting 4th house of confidence/belief, general happiness/contentment, ultimate results etc) needs to be addressed. The opportunity(11th) was there for Rajesh (offer of employment) but this was stalled, due I'm sure, to Saturn's retrograde motion, both in rashi and in transit through 4th house (emotional mind, vehicles etc). My understanding of this, apart from Saturn's F/M nature in relation to the houses of mind i.e. ADD and the like, is due to the fact that 11th lord of opportunities/gains is in retrograde motion... I welcome the opinion of other learned members :-)) Best Wishes, Mrs. Wendy http://JyotishVidya.com ______________________________ -- In jyotish-vidya, RPM <rupamede> wrote: > > Dear Rajesh, > > Ask yourself: "What is the reason for my laziness, lack of motivation, depression, erratic routine" and I think you will find the answer. > > Jupiter is a benefic planet for Aries and you are doing its benefic dasha plus those are the exact months I predicted Jupiter would be transiting your Sun and aspecting your ascendant degree. > > Sometimes those temporary positions can change a person's life in such a way that you never want to come back to the life you had. Think of all that may come from this temporary change. If nothing changes, then can you not come back to the USA? I think that having positive thinking may also help a lot, don't you think? This proximity with your son, does it not excite you? > > Best wishes, Rui. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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