Need help !!! Duplicate / For Ms.Ramapriya

May 26, 2004

PRANAM !!!

For some reasons I may agree with you that this is what is prevailing in the

society presently and is not right. I could not reply to your mail earlier as I

was tied up with other urgent work at official and personal level.

I wanted to share my side with you so that you may get a feel of it. I had

raised this with a feeling that this group is very supportive and would help me

out. It is so easy to be judgemental but it is also a well known fact that

498(A) is also misued at many places. I hope you will read my mail at least....

I am from an average working class family who are if not very well off but sort

of self sufficient. I have worked hard in my life to come up and have got a

decent job.

If I were to get married for money then I could have married by best friend who

happens to be from top 10 rich Indian Industrialist family. FICCI way back in

97 rated her as top 50 Indian business woman. Presently he is Managing Director

of a 3000 Crore company. I prefered to remain as her friend because I knew that

they are rich and I was never interested in money.

Even today I feel happy and lucky that despite all this she still remains my

best friend and above all non-judgemental.

My marriage was fixed through normal newspaper ad. Again they are very rich

industrialist based in Calcutta. My wife are only 2 sisters. At that point of

time I was working in Bombay and my in-laws are from Kolkata.

My wife's elder sister is married to elder brother of the most famous bengali

cricketer presently in India Team. Even she has come back home since last 2

years and even their married life is on rocks.

After my marriage my wife came to Bombay after one year because she kept on

extending her stay on the ground of her studies. I purchased flat in Bombay so

that she can move in to our own house when she decide to come over.

I am happy to say that we have not taken a penny from them in whatever way. She

has not even visited our home in Delhi or not even stayed with my parents.

All these while I was under pressure from my in-laws that I should quit my job

and settle in Kolkata with them. I was resisting this all this while. The sad

part was that every member in my in-laws were sort of laying trap and my wife

used to fight often just because I was not agreeing to them.

Over a period of time situation became bad to worst. In Bombay they used

influence of a India's most famous crikerter's wife and a Board member to use

police action against me.

ONE THING IS VERY CLEAR THAT DOWRY HARRASMENTS ARE POSSIBLE OR HAPPENING WHERE

GIRLS ARE FROM WEAKER SECTION/FAMILY. AND AT THIS LEVEL MONEY CAN NEVER BE

DISCUSSED.

They even wrote to my company and threatened them and asked them to sack me. I

was under so much pressure that I had to leave my job and look at person side

more.

My wife's official income must be in crores but they are still harassing for alimony !!!

As I have said earlier I could have been married to a family who are a million

times richer then my in-laws but money was never my priority.

My in-laws' main aim is to harrass us and even as you have said could have taken

a divorce on mutual agreement.

This is still pending since last 3 years and still donot know how long this will go.

I personally donot feel bad about anything or about what you said but lets not

be judgemental. This is a place where everyone can come and seek advice. Temple

does not restrict rich or poor, good or bad.

Best Regards,

Rajesh Burmann

Ramapriya D <hubli (AT) hotpop (DOT) com> wrote:

Rajesh, I'm not about to sit in judgment on whether or not you're a lurking

monster. That said, having been raised in the presently prevalent sociological

Indian clime, commonsense tells me that it's quite unlikely that sane adults

will entice their daughters from marriage and scuttle it without good reason or

for ulterior motives. I readily concede that it doesn't take much for a marriage

to flop but in your case, a divorce isn't all that's being asked for. Just for

those that don't know it, here's Section 498(a) of the Indian Penal Code:

498A. Husband or relative of husband of a woman subjecting her to

crueltyWhoever, being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman,

subjects such woman to cruelty shall be punished with imprisonment for a term

which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine.

Explanation- For the purpose of this section, "cruelty" means-

(a) any wilful conduct which is of such a nature as is likely to drive the woman

to commit suicide or to cause grave injury or danger to life, limb or health

(whether mental or physical) of the woman; or

(b) harassment of the woman where such harassment is with a view to coercing her

or any person related to her to meet any unlawful demand for any property or

valuable security or is on account of failure by her or any person related to

her to meet such demand.]

[Endquote]

A divorce can easily be filed (and obtained) on grounds of incompatibility

alone; no frills needed at all. Why the heck then is a complaint under 498A

being lodged?

I can't speak for others here but I will certainly not abet you and your ilk,

Rajesh. In such matters, one's guilty till he's proven innocent.

Ramapriya

hubli (AT) hotpop (DOT) com

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Rajesh Burmann

Thursday, May 20, 2004 10:25 AM

[sJC: Achyuta Gurukul] Need help !!! *Duplicate*

I was married on 26th January 2000 but it is not successful. We stayed for a

very short period. Finally, we moved apart in June 2001.

My in-laws have made false allegations and are harrassing us for last 3.5 years.

They registered a false case under 498(A) in Bombay and a divorce case in

Calcutta.

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