Dear Mama – Obituary

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Dear Mama – Obituary

Monday, October 14, 2002

 

All,

This has been a very difficult week for me; one of

multiple losses. One I will never forget.

 

On Sunday, Oct 13, 2002, at exactly 10:57am, my Mother

breathed her last breath in this world. She succumbed

to the after effects of a massive stroke.

 

It is only myself, my sisters and my older brother

now; we are all the family we have left. Of course,

there are extended family relations, but the nuclear

family is always where it’s at.

 

I have just returned from the funeral home, having

made the preliminary arrangements with my siblings; my

youngest sister, Jeanette, had to leave for awhile

after she began to tear up. My two youngest nephews,

about 5 years old the both of them, I don’t think they

truly understood what was going on. They sat in huge

grownup chairs and cracked jokes and the like with

each other.

 

My Mom was a true Stand-Up Lady, the one I got such a

fiery temperament from. She always stood up for what

she believed in, and didn’t take no mess off anyone –

and that included my Step-Dad (who died in Dec of

1998). There is so much to say about her, I’m having a

bit of trouble putting together my thoughts for what I

plan to present as a eulogy; I did my Dad’s, and it's

only right that I do Mom's as well.

 

As an Astrologer, of course, I cannot say that this

was totally unexpected; I have known for at least the

past 4 years that it was highly unlikely that my

parents would survive my Rahu Dasa, and the second

go-around of my Sade Sati, which just finished up only

a few months back. Still, I cannot truly believe she

is gone.

 

My Mom was born on Dec 19, 1949, 4:59am, EST in

Philadelphia, PA, early in the morning; back when I

was in prison, I rectified her horoscope by hand.

Looking at her Vedic chart, it becomes evident that a

long lifespan was not very likely – Moon debilitated

in Scorpio rises in the Asc, with Lagnesh Mars in

conjunction with Ketu. But the key combination was the

2 and 7 lords Jupiter and Venus both in the 3 house.

Jupiter, the 2 lord, is debilitated. This combination,

among other things, contributed to her diabetes.

 

My Mom was running Venus/Jupiter at the time of her

death, and had been for some time now; she wouldn’ve

come out of it till 2004, and to make matters worse,

the transit of the Nodes was on her Asc-Dsc axis. The

handwriting was on the wall.

 

I have found over the years, that more often than not,

one can find the death of a person moreso in their

children’s charts than their own; for example, take

the death of Lady Di (whom my Mom just loved, by the

way; they both share the same name – Diane is my Mom’s

middle name; you have to look at it in Western

Astrology format) – the signal of the passing of a

parent was much more readily seen in the charts of

William and Harry, then in the chart of Prince

Charles. Perhaps that is the Universe’s way of showing

us the impact of the loss of a parent on the children.

 

 

In my Western horoscope, and that of my sisters, the

same principle holds true. In my case, I have just

come out from under the most horrendous series of

measurements in my entire life – transiting Neptune

square my MC for the second time, transiting Saturn

square my Pluto, ruler of my MC and transiting Uranus

squaring my 10 house Neptune, along with other similar

measurements – ALL occuring in August, this Summer

just passed. In my sister Jeanette’s case, the one who

had to leave out from the funeral director’s office

earlier this evening, she has transiting Pluto smack

on her MC; the recent Saturn-Pluto opposition axis has

been really beating her 4-10 axis up over the past

year, symbolizing both the steady decline of my Mom’s

health, and the eventual loss of her life.

 

Back in 1998, just as Sade Sati began, and my Rahu

Dasa was just getting started, my Dad was in the

hospital, hooked up to all manner of things in a vain

effort to keep him alive; although I didn’t say

anything to anyone else in the family, I knew it was

only a matter of time, about a year or so out from the

actual time of death.

 

They say that Sade Sati brings about, I cannot

remember the Sanskrit way of saying it, but it brings

about the loss of those who protected us. It is very

common to lose a parent or a loved one during Sade

Sati.

 

I have Rahu and Saturn in the 4 house, and although

Saturn is supposed to be the Yogi Planet for me, in my

view it has brought nothing but loss and death; it has

seen the death of both my parents over the past 4

years. This I have known for some time.

 

For all the many things that Astrology can do, and for

all the things I have seen Astrology do, there are

times when I wish I did not know one thing about the

Science at all. Not at all.

 

In keeping with my Mom’s wishes, certain preparations

have been made, and there will be a traditional

African American Black Baptist funeral; she is due to

be interred on Monday coming. I and my siblings will

have to put up the money to have a proper burial, as

she did not have any life insurance, a nasty habit we

Black folks seem to have. And, there is the matter of

buying a black suit of clothes for myself, as I am

both the pallbearer and will be giving the eulogy,

among my many other duties on that day.

 

Ramadan is less than one month away. It is a time

reflection, of introspection, and for me, it is

perhaps the most important time of my entire

existence. I look forward to that time ahead.

 

You will please understand when I say that I will not

be able to participate for awhile; other things

beckon, and I need some time to put things in a more

proper perspective. Aside from grieving in my own

private space, I also need to try to implement some of

the things that my Mom did in this world, for I truly

believe, that the best way to honor those who have

crossed over is to carry on their work.

 

Insha-Allah, I will return around mid-December or so,

perhaps a bit sooner. All privately sent emails will

be briefly answered, but I don’t have a great deal of

time or will to deal with the various lists right now.

I hope everyone understands.

 

Thanks Mom, for everything – giving me life, raising

me to be a good person, and most of all, for making

this world a better place by gracing me and those who

knew you with your presence. I’ll see you again. I

Love You.

 

Salaam,

Mu’Min M. Bey

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mu'Min M. Bey

Western and Vedic Astrologer

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