Concerned

[Guest guest]

Hello Gayatri re. "Concerned"

 

I am not looking at your chart at all. I am commenting from intuition and

general knowledge.

 

You are my younger sister by age and experience, and in that affectionate way

I speak to you.

 

You are good at heart, that's apparent. But you are attached, that too is

apparent. The spread of material success in your married years, the kids,

husband, money, home, is all welcome to you, and you should be happy about

it. The living being wants all that, and when it gets it, happiness is

natural.

 

To deal with worries of loss however, is the subject of saints and

scriptures. Mostly we as humans try to avoid thinking about it. Something in

your karma makes you a little worried, perhaps a Ketu conjunction near to an

important point, such as either the first, the moon, the sun, mercury, or the

4th house or lord.

 

But that doesn't really matter in what I'm saying.

 

What matters is that I want to tell you to spend some time directly facing

all these losses. Just sit and go ahead and directly see it, face it. See the

demise of the household, your mothers death, your husbands death, your own

death, and see various normal possibilities, such as someone getting a

disease and dieing early, or something bad happening, as stuff does happen.

 

This excercise will probably make you feel great pain. Don't worry. Just go

through it fully. Fully feel all that pain. Cry cry cry. Spend some time

facing your fears.

 

Then you will come out cherishing things differently. The people will matter

more than the house. This will balance your priorities. All of us get our

priorities skewed over time inbetween those shocking reality check points

which remind us now and then.

 

You sound like a wonderfully sweet person. Your family is lucky. But you have

sorrows and fears in advance. That is worry. Better to not feel that.

Transform that energy into serving them all due to cherishing them all in the

moment. They are hear now, as are you. Everything will fall. Plans usually

fail. Unexpected events come. Better to make each moment one of love.

 

Guilt you feel a bit. This is due to not living up to your own expected

internal balance of giving and taking. The above excercise increases

cherishing and then naturally serving, which then balances your own ins/outs

with the environment, you are giving more than you used to after the

excercise, and so the guilt exits. You soon get on a positive cycle of love

and service, and instead of guilt, you realize that serving everyone is your

savior, is your salvation. You get by giving, and guilt is not in the picture.

 

There is no guilt for those who love everyone and themselves all equally and

who acts on that. I find I don't have to renounce, rather, care. Love and

concern replace lust and greed. We only have to see rightly where we are,

what we are, how time works, and accept, then surrender to this beautiful

loving reality, start serving in that mode, and the good times just roll and

roll.

 

This is my encouragement to you, and to me.

 

Your slightly older brother, very imperfect, speaking for myself, to myself,

hoping the sharing you like, but if not, I'm sorry, I apologize, if the be

the case, but if you like what I've said, you're freely welcome.

 

in loving mood,

 

raghu

[Guest guest]

Following are my birth details:

 

DOB: October 11, 1968

Time: 12:07AM

Place of Birth: Bangalore, India

 

I have the following concerns. If anyone can help, I would really

appreciate it. Thanks- Gayatri

 

1) I currently have a job as a claims adjuster for an insurance

company. This is not I wanted to end up with after being a successful

journalist (1989-1993). With the responsibility of raising 2 small

kids, I have not been able to put any effort to advance my career.

Money wise, I would like to make much more but wonder if I am capable

of doing so. I aspire to start my own business. Is there a change in

the forseeable future for me?; there are so many dreams but I lack

the confidence to do anything new and different.

 

If this insurance job is what is in store for me for a while, I want

to be assured that the job will be secure and I won't lose it.

 

2) I am very happy with the new house, a wonderful husband and

adorable kids. I am blessed with a great family and thank god

everyday for that I feel this is all too good and sometimes feel

guilty for spending too much money for the house and am consumed by

guilt for doing so. I just want to be reassured that all be will be

okay and nothing will be snatched away from me. I believe health is

the most important thing one must have and want to make sure there

are going to be no major health issues with any of us.

 

3) My mother is currently living with us - she came from India last

year. I am very close to my mother and love her very much. I lost my

father in 1990 when he was only 60 and since then, life for my mother

has been very tough. My brother and sister-in law were living with

her but they left to go to Africa and my sister went to New Zealand

and she has been living by herself since then. I have a lot of

trouble dealing with that. She is a very strong person and very good

at heart. She has gone through a lot and I feel she should live with

us and her son and the other daughter diving her time with all. Touch

wood, her health has been fine till now. Please tell me that if there

are any health issues or any other issues regarding my mother. I

sometimes feel angry at my brother for not taking more initiative and

have her live with him (he's now in Canada). I worry about this issue

a lot. We want her to stay with us for a long time. However, health

insurance and medical expenses in the US are such a scary thing. I

feel we as kids should take care of our parents. If she is alone in

India, and falls sick, who will take care of her? I want her to have

a long, health life. Please tell me what you see regarding all this.

[Guest guest]

gayatri wrote:

>

> I have the following concerns. If anyone can help, I would really

> appreciate it. Thanks- Gayatri

 

 

Dear sister/daughter,

 

After reading your letter I must say your "NOW" is much better than it is for

most people on earth.

 

Raghu (Das) has written a very appropriate letter to you. I endorse every word

of his letter.

 

We see polarities as linear. Good - bad. But they are triangular. Good means the

"Golden Mean". Bad is too little or too much! A totally unfortunate life is not

nice at all. But a totally happy and prosperous life can lead one to forgetting

God - which is a disaster!

 

The opposite of Love is not hate, but hate and fear. Fear is the anxiety about

losing what we love, be it our own lives, those whom we love, or what we

possess.

 

No re-assurance from any astrologer will ever help to overcome fear. You´ll

never know if the astrologer was right ... all the time! If you are in serious

trouble he can give you advice, give hope. But if you are not in serious

trouble, don´t ask for advice except in the following manner: I want to do this

or that. Will it be a success? The astrologer will tell you when to start or

warn you against the project. But to express concern over existing things which

are generally satisfactory is no proper way to use astrology. Say something goes

wrong. The sorrow comes anyhow. But if the astrologer tells you in advance

that it will happen, your sorrowing period is only extended! It is another thing

to get a life reading, to get an overall view. But even there I´d only ask for

general trends, not exact times. The point is not to submit to the stars, but to

make the best out of tendencies: to do things when the tide is strong, to sit

and wait when the tide is ebbing.

 

God is above all planets. So pray: thank him for the good things you have and

request him to preserve these things for you. But you must be prepared for

losses, for you must have a night to recognize the day. Everything passes by,

nothing is permanent.

 

You have kids. Whom you adore. Think back on the days they were babies. Every

day that baby is cute and you don´t want to lose it. But if that baby remains

the same for two days, does not learn or do something new, you get worried. You

want it to unfold, yet want to keep the status quo! But the unfolding goes

on.....

 

So live in the present, without thought of the future. I don´t mean stop

thinking in practical terms, like yogis! It is one thing to pay insurance, plan

the next holiday or tomorrow´s meal. But another to brood over calamities that

have not occurred!

 

Do you know the Italian song "O sole mio"? "Oh you my sunshine, kiss me my

darling, for tomorrow may never be!" Make your plans, but live only NOW! You are

so concerned about your family. But are you sure you will wake up tomorrow?

 

I am not putting you off astrology or astrologers. Only trying to say, "Change

your attitude". By knowing disasters in advance, you double and prolong their

impact. By knowing the fortunes in advance, yuu halve the wonderful surprise and

joy! So use astrology to choose your way of life, career in general, or for

immediate problems. People ask, "Will I get married? and when?" Sometimes I give

periods when there is a chance. Recently I told a young friend to avoid marriage

if possible! Actually that suited him! A frequent question from Indians is,

"When can I go abroad?" I think such questions are "illegal": two very well

known astrologers in Madras told me I would never go abroad - I had been abroad

many times already and had a ticket in the pocket for my next trip, which was

final, I emigrated, did not return to India for 30 years!

 

Another famous astrologer in Madras, a lady who has written many books, advised

my nephew to get married, checked the chart for a bride he had tentatively found

through ads. promised a great married life. He died 5 months later, after

living 2 months with his wife! BIG DEAL!

 

Our only refuge is Paramatman, Janardhana, the Great Mother Durga!

regards

Mani

[Guest guest]

Dear Gayatri,

 

Your current operating lord Mars till 4/2002 is well placed & unafflicted

indicates there is no obstruction in your health, finance, gain &

professional matters. After that the coming period of weak Jupiter &

followed by weak Saturn till 2006 indicates less possibility of any good

improvement in your profession according to the weakness of these 2 planets.

 

Regarding the health of your mother I don't think she will be a liability or

burden on you in future as your Mercury(lord of house of mother)is

unafflicted and well placed in the house of emotions & children. Due to its

placement I think your mother will be helpful in your emotions & growing up

your children.

 

In your case the strengthening of Jupiter & Saturn will be helpful in

current & coming period thru Astral remedies.

 

With Best Wishes

 

Narinder Juneja

www.mywebastrologer.com

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<gayatri

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Tuesday, May 22, 2001 8:42 PM

[gjlist] Concerned

 

 

> Following are my birth details:

>

> DOB: October 11, 1968

> Time: 12:07AM

> Place of Birth: Bangalore, India

>

> I have the following concerns. If anyone can help, I would really

> appreciate it. Thanks- Gayatri

>

> 1) I currently have a job as a claims adjuster for an insurance

> company. This is not I wanted to end up with after being a successful

> journalist (1989-1993). With the responsibility of raising 2 small

> kids, I have not been able to put any effort to advance my career.

> Money wise, I would like to make much more but wonder if I am capable

> of doing so. I aspire to start my own business. Is there a change in

> the forseeable future for me?; there are so many dreams but I lack

> the confidence to do anything new and different.

>

> If this insurance job is what is in store for me for a while, I want

> to be assured that the job will be secure and I won't lose it.

>

> 2) I am very happy with the new house, a wonderful husband and

> adorable kids. I am blessed with a great family and thank god

> everyday for that I feel this is all too good and sometimes feel

> guilty for spending too much money for the house and am consumed by

> guilt for doing so. I just want to be reassured that all be will be

> okay and nothing will be snatched away from me. I believe health is

> the most important thing one must have and want to make sure there

> are going to be no major health issues with any of us.

>

> 3) My mother is currently living with us - she came from India last

> year. I am very close to my mother and love her very much. I lost my

> father in 1990 when he was only 60 and since then, life for my mother

> has been very tough. My brother and sister-in law were living with

> her but they left to go to Africa and my sister went to New Zealand

> and she has been living by herself since then. I have a lot of

> trouble dealing with that. She is a very strong person and very good

> at heart. She has gone through a lot and I feel she should live with

> us and her son and the other daughter diving her time with all. Touch

> wood, her health has been fine till now. Please tell me that if there

> are any health issues or any other issues regarding my mother. I

> sometimes feel angry at my brother for not taking more initiative and

> have her live with him (he's now in Canada). I worry about this issue

> a lot. We want her to stay with us for a long time. However, health

> insurance and medical expenses in the US are such a scary thing. I

> feel we as kids should take care of our parents. If she is alone in

> India, and falls sick, who will take care of her? I want her to have

> a long, health life. Please tell me what you see regarding all this.

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