To Prasadini about Family Members (was To GeorgeSon and all about What is Ego)

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Prasadini wrote:

 

Are any  of us REALLY honest with our parents? I think we are honest  to the 

extent we feel comfortable. If we have been badly hurt by someone we 

tend to not be honest and hold back...Whatever we do we

have to be  able to live with the situation, and our own conscience.

Making a  sacrificial lamb out of oneself isn't a healthy thing to do -

and it  doesn't work, I know 'cause I've done it. You can't get something

out of  someone that isn't there.

 

 

 

Dear Prasadini,

This really hit home. I was really trying to tell a hurtful story so that  it

sounded better. I did make a bit of a sacrificial lamb out of myself by 

crying profusely, which, in this situation, were not healthy tears of release  but

tears of shame and self-abasement. I will get the additional money they 

promised. I will have my home and get out of the trailer and be safer. But I  will

never put myself in this position with any of my family members again. I  had

this worked out really well until I moved to Oregon. I honored my family 

members, at a distance. Then it all changed, I guess because I wanted to believe 

the fairy tale. I won't again. But I still have my wings. They are only a

little  singed, and that will pass. Hugs ~ Linda

 

 

 

 

 

Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

 

 

 

 

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Dear Linda,

Good for you! Sometimes it is only possible to love  some family from a

distance. Very sad, but true. It doesn't mean we love them any less.  It

just means that things are too berserk to do otherwise.

 

As long as we try to make an unworkable relationship work we can't have

our wings, we can't be ourselves. We wind up being caught  up as players

in a very bad play. And as long as we are selling our souls and being

conned by family we will be angry, sad, feel victimized.

 

We all seek that unconditional love, and want to complete the circle by

loving back. Sometimes it just doesn't come from our parents. It comes

from God, from ourSelves.

 

Hugs,

Prasadini

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> Dear Prasadini,

>

> This really hit home. I was really trying to tell a hurtful story so

> that  it

> sounded better. I did make a bit of a sacrificial lamb out of myself by

> crying profusely, which, in this situation, were not healthy tears of

> release  but

> tears of shame and self-abasement. I will get the additional money they

> promised. I will have my home and get out of the trailer and be safer.

> But I  will

> never put myself in this position with any of my family members again.

> I  had

> this worked out really well until I moved to Oregon. I honored my family

> members, at a distance. Then it all changed, I guess because I wanted

> to believe

> the fairy tale. I won't again. But I still have my wings. They are only a

> little  singed, and that will pass. Hugs ~ Linda

>

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> Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

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> Mata amritanandamayi

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Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

 

 

 

 

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Namah Shivaya Pahari Ma

What a neat story. It's so nice that now you and your mother can love

each other and she can be your mother and you her daughter. I remember

you saying that your mother had a mental illness. That had to be really

hard for you growing up. And then we don't suddenly become together

adults - we have a lot of stuff to work out. It's great that you had

such good support from your father.

 

Probably some distance was the best thing for your relationship with

your mother.

Wow. Those family ties are strong - and sometimes very difficult. And

hopefully, through it all, there is love.

 

Prasadini

 

 

Ardis Jackson wrote:

> I have had a difficult relationship with my mother since I was born.

>

> Right before my wonderful father died, he told me "don't be hard on

> your mother.  Don't judge her."  Well I had done a lot of judging of

> her behavior over the years.  She was "abusive", etc. etc. etc.  But I

> had enormous respect for my father so I listened to his advice.

> Unfortunately her behavior never improved.  I was her main source of

> support.  I cooked her home-cooked meals and took them to her.  I

> listened to all her complaints about everyone in our family.  I gave up

> my power to her.  I let her micromanage my life.

>

> Finally, when I turned 60, I realized that our co-dependent

> relationship was not good for either of us.  I shocked everyone in the

> family and moved 500 miles away to my mountain sanctuary. My younger

> sister reluctantly started to pay more attention to our mom.

>

> The miracle that happened is that my mom and I became "phone pals".  I

> call her every couple of days and we gab on the phone for an hour at a

> time.  We are closer than we have ever been in our lives.  We "listen"

> to each other.  We laugh.  We don't push each other's buttons.  And I

> have truly come to appreciate her.  (even her sarcastic sense of

> humor!)  She just turned 91. We even talk about death and what comes

> next.  We talk about why I value Gurus and why I do pujas..

>

> I love her.

>

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> On May 10, 2006, at 4:18 PM, nierika (AT) aol (DOT) com wrote:

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> >  Prasadini wrote:

> >

> >  Are any  of us REALLY honest with our parents? I think we are honest

> > to the

> >  extent we feel comfortable. If we have been badly hurt by someone we

> >  tend to not be honest and hold back...Whatever we do we

> >  have to be  able to live with the situation, and our own conscience.

> >  Making a  sacrificial lamb out of oneself isn't a healthy thing to do

> > -

> >  and it  doesn't work, I know 'cause I've done it. You can't get

> > something

> >  out of  someone that isn't there.

> >

> >

> >

> >  Dear Prasadini,

> >

> >  This really hit home. I was really trying to tell a hurtful story so

> > that  it

> >  sounded better. I did make a bit of a sacrificial lamb out of myself

> > by

> >  crying profusely, which, in this situation, were not healthy tears of

> > release  but

> >  tears of shame and self-abasement. I will get the additional money

> > they

> >  promised. I will have my home and get out of the trailer and be

> > safer. But I  will

> >  never put myself in this position with any of my family members

> > again. I  had

> >  this worked out really well until I moved to Oregon. I honored my

> > family

> >  members, at a distance. Then it all changed, I guess because I wanted

> > to believe

> >  the fairy tale. I won't again. But I still have my wings. They are

> > only a

> >  little  singed, and that will pass. Hugs ~ Linda

> >

> >

> > 

> >

> >

> >

> > Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Mata amritanandamayi

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Based upon our recent discussions here on the subject, I thought this would be interesting.  Though I am sure Santani's must be much more powerful because of Her Love, Devotion and Mantra.

 

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