Rnanubandhana/Cyraji

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G'day Cyraji,

 

Thanks for your kindly wishes, all appreciated. May I take the

liberty of humbly expressing two cents' worth as follows:

 

We all feel saddened about your matrimonial situation and wish a

miracle will occur as soon as possible. We also understand fully

the anguish you must be going through and wish we can take that

away. Personally, I admire you for trying your best to keep up the

good spirits, you are a very brave woman, Cyraji. It is your

natural resource of inner strength that will pull you through

successfully when the time is ripe.

 

>From the depths of my humble heart, I pray and wish for your spouse

to return to yourself and family. At the same time, may I also

mention about Rnanubandhana. Sometimes in samsara all that we wish

for dearly, may not come to pass. Other times we have to give wings

to others to fly as they wish. Like a bird, if they return to us

then they are ours, if not it is not meant to be. No mortal is able

to force the will of God if God is not willing.

 

People come and go, like ebb and flow. Emotions are the same.

Sometimes they linger for a long time and sometimes they blow away

with the next breeze. When someone's rnanubandhana with us in past,

present or future lifetimes are completed, karmic laws and the laws

of Rtam ("heavenly rhythms or movements", for want of a simple

explantion) naturally influences the person's gravitation towards

another direction where he/she still has rnanubandhana to repay,

maybe for a time. Then after repaying that other rnanubandhana and

if he/she still owes us some, they return. If they don't, in our

love for them (as you must love your husband very deeply), we may

have to let go. Love is keeping them in our hearts. Love also means

letting go. Above all else, you must love yourself first. The rest

falls into place after this priority. You are the priority for

yourself first (hope you get my gist). Love for another should not

have conditions; it should be unconditional. It is no use having

someone's physical being at home while his/her heart or soul is

elsewhere.

 

Please know that I mean well and have your interests at heart. I do

not want to bring up any more anguish than you have already been

suffering. But probably at this time of your life, it is best to

take a back seat for a little time, enjoy your trip to India and

kick up your heels a bit (have fun) and live well. The best therapy

is to live well. You remember teenagers with cat and mouse

romances? When one chases, the other hides. When the chaser backs

off, the "hunted one" turns into the chaser. Such is psychology and

such is leela and maya. When you hubby decides to crawl home one

day, make sure you give him a good run for his prana. Meanwhile,

there are plenty of other better fish in the ocean. You deserve much

better. Perhaps by time your hubby decides to return, you would have

landed or moved on to a wonderful salmon!

 

Btw, we shall miss you while you're in India but have a great time

and have one for me too!

 

Om Shree Gurudev Namaha

With all my love,

Simone

 

, Cyra Kanga

<crkanga> wrote:

 

> Thanks Simoneji for all your mails.

> Sincerely hoping every day your eye is getting better

> and better. I mean how can it not with so many prayers

> and good wishes.

 

> Please pray from your heart that my husband who has

> left us (presumed other woman) gets back on the right

> path and returns home to his wife and kids. We are

> going through hell at the moment. A perfectly good

> loving man has just changed dramatically and seems to

> be in a different world where he knows no right or

> wrong anymore. Moreso he does not even think he is

> doing anything wrong and is full of unexpleined anger

> and hatred. Only prayers and good wishes from all is

> pulling me through each day.

 

> Bless you with everything best. I want to try the

> Navratna mala. I am off to India (my heart lies in

> that beautiful country) on the 9th so I maynot come on

> for a month or so. Still a week to go.

> Thanks for all.

> Cyra