want help

[Guest guest]

I want to quit masturbation. Please tell me how to quit.

On the web there is a dearth of information on quitting.

I cant believe all this bologna about it being "healthy." My years of

personal experience testify otherwise.

I am a male in my mid 20's. It has triggered and triggers all sorts of

very bad and negative effects - and is making my life hell. I

consistently get the same results from masturbation, and in the few

times I have been able to abstain (for some time) those effects went

away.

I have tried and tried to quit but have failed miserably. I usually

(almost always) can't sleep at night unless I masturbate (until

ejaculation). If I lay there awake attempting to avoid it, I start

feeling uncomfortable in general and in particular I get a strange

feeling of discomfort in my feet. The only explanation I can think of

for this is that in the brain's map of the body the area for the

genitals is adjacent to the area of the feet and somehow the signal is

getting routed there.

I don't think this is an issue of attitude towards masturbation either

because I tried having the

this-is-healthy-theres-nothing-wrong-attitude but I ALWAYS get the

same results. The same effects triggered, which I will summarize

below:

-inability to articulate

-inability to focus or concentrate

-inability to do anything that requires thinking or putting

information together

-doubts about all sorts of things

-getting stuck on the same thought over and over again

-losing my train of thought

-feeling like my chest, throat, and mouth are filled with

some toxic substance

-memory problems

-excessive worry

Theres probably other stuff but thats all I can think of at the

moment.

[Guest guest]

Dear Humble soul

Namaskar

Nature has blessed every soul with huge energy and

blessed the human being with brain.

Just open the door of your brain and see nature.If

you wish to get rid of any habit that is not

possible.Suppression is not the answer to sex.Answer

is proper understanding of that energy.It is the power

given by God and it depends upon you that how do you

transform this energy.Just think what is the search

you close your eyes and see only sex....have you

thought why,what is suppressed in your subconscious

thought. Why smoke is there why not proper utilisation

of that energy resource.Esacapism is not the

answer.Without moderating without proper understanding

how can you come out.

When you control your breath

then you control your mind

when you control mind then you float in the sky of

ecstacy.

Life is an eternal bliss.

 

Sex is the prime source when you understand sex then

you would understand superconsciousness.When you

transform energy then you flow with unconditional love

for the whole humanity.

 

Just see your life schedule.Just commune with

nature.Just see the animals,birds they live with the

law of nature.But human being overrules nature's law.

 

No medicine would help you because seed is in the

brain if it would vanish then you would concentrate

otherwise would sink in the labyrinth of darkness.

 

Commune with nature,go for walk,take deep

breath.Attune with your breath and do meditation and

try to understand the purpose of your life.At the age

of 20 you have the prime responsibility of young

generation for society.When you wipe the tears of

others then understand pain when inner cries then love

flows then negative energies vanishes and you becomes

selfless and glitters with Divinity.Then sex becomes

the energy resource for Divine task.Would be able to

understand it.

Need is to understand your real self.

 

My SatGuru always says,"DELVE DEEP TO FIND YOUR

TRUESELF."

He also says one beautiful line-"BREATH CONTROLS

BODY...

EGO CONTROLS MIND.....

SILENCE CONTROLS SOUL"

 

You know the moment you have faith and surrenders,all

problems vanishes.Just worship your inner.This body is

the Divine abode of

of Divine soul.Don't spoil it.Use it for serving

others.

 

Keep moderate food habits.Pious living.Humbleness and

Be sublime.

Then Nature would bless you.

Without persistent efforts obstacles never removes.

Win your self.

 

With Regards,

Teji

 

--- ordinary_007in <ordinary_007in wrote:

 

 

 

I want to quit masturbation. Please tell me how to

quit.

On the web there is a dearth of information on

quitting.

I cant believe all this bologna about it being

"healthy." My years of

personal experience testify otherwise.

[Guest guest]

Hi there,

 

I think in everyones life there are times when mother nature calls at a

deeper level. For women especially they say the "clock has gone off."

However, I understand that sometimes it's nice to feel that we have

control over who is sailing this ship.

 

What I would suggest is Kundalini Meditation. I have found that it's the

quickest way to the neutralize the hormones and bring more balance.

 

I don't know where you live but check out this website for the specific

style of meditation I'm referring to. It's an eyes open transfer of

shakti from teacher to student.

 

www.SacredSpaceYogaSanctuary.com

 

Good luck!!

 

> I want to quit masturbation. Please tell me how to quit.

> On the web there is a dearth of information on quitting.

> I cant believe all this bologna about it being "healthy." My

> years of

> personal experience testify otherwise.

[Guest guest]

This author is pleased to see so many suggestions pouring in, and all

of them "no medicine" approaches. Thank you members who put in

those.

 

In this case no medicine exists, except modern poisons such as

pesticides, drugs, etc. which kill fertility. How many males suffer

from fertility issues world over is a question for scientists to

answer. And your very desire to quit in spite of "it being healthy"

attitude adopted by several, suggests that already some window to

your soul is open. While Panch Gavya medicines cool the mind, they

increase fertility. Three years of shivambu therapy makes

the "Sadhaka" a "tru yogi", as said by Lord Siva in Damar Tantra.

 

Few messages on "sativic diet" exist in our group itself.

 

Most of suggestions wish you to upgrade your "explosive" sex energy

to spiritual one. This author agrees 100%. A "how to do it" step by

step manual is provided on "aypsite". Various breathing techniques,

mantras exist, but since this author likes breathing techniques and

meditation techniques, he suggested site. It is unfortunate that some

of the breathing techniques taught by Guru Padmasambhava, a tantric

master from Tibet cant be communicated over the net.

 

In case this is difficult, one more way of upgrading the energy is

through Vajroli technique of Tantra. Some literature on this exists

in adult section of aypsite forum also. More can be requested from

this author off-list. Excessively strong Muladhar Chakra is a boon to

seekers of "self" provided a good guidance exists from a "Guru" or an

anonymous netizen with no commercial interest. HOw far "yogani99" of

aypsite comes to this expectation can be decided by you.

 

Loss of dhatus has already set in as suggested by various symptoms

described by you, but you have not yet crossed the point of "no

return". Good luck and blessings.

 

Dr Bhate

 

ayurveda, "ordinary_007in"

<ordinary_007in> wrote:

>

> I want to quit masturbation. Please tell me how to quit.

> On the web there is a dearth of information on quitting.

> I cant believe all this bologna about it being "healthy." My years

of

> personal experience testify otherwise.

[Guest guest]

ayurveda, "ordinary_007in"

<ordinary_007in> wrote:

>

> I want to quit masturbation. Please tell me how to quit.

> On the web there is a dearth of information on quitting.

> I cant believe all this bologna about it being "healthy." My years

of

> personal experience testify otherwise.

 

 

Hi,

Masturbation is only healthy when you masturbate two times a week,

these side effects do crop up when you are doing everyday, because

like every organ your penis also needs some rest, and the body takes

3 days times to remake the amount of semen ejaculated, so although

you cant stop masturbating atleast try to masturbate in gaps of 3

days, it will definately help your condition, when feeling the urge

about masturbating try to divert your mind to something sad in your

life, it works

[Guest guest]

Dear.

 

The best way to quit 'masturbation' is you take firm decision that you will

not masturbate and make self estimation that this is a childish act and shameful

deed. Also keep in mind that if we think spiritualy, it is a sin.

 

 

Regards

Sheena

[Guest guest]

I agree with you partially that it requires a firm decision to work on this.

But your reasoning is interesting... and i'd like to know more.

 

Why is this deed shameful and sin?

 

Abdul Majeed <aborizwan3 wrote: Dear.

Also keep in mind that if we think spiritualy, it is a sin.

Sheena

[Guest guest]

Actually, the timing on this is an urban legend... there's no proof that

masturbating twice or week, daily or otherwise are healthy for any individual

(male or female). This is a complex process involving fantasy, cravings, urges,

physical constitution, etc. There are enough examples of people being in

despair, pain, frustration because of their "fear" from religion/etc other

sources that inspire abstinence. Abstinence or celebity is a behaviour that

arises from perfect understanding of the human body... a natural brahmacharya.

Otherwise even lustful thoughts in the wake of all physical abstinence evoke the

same emotions/hormones in your body and not being aware of this will lead you to

more grief than a simple act of masturbation.

 

On the physical aspect, its not the physique of a person that determines the

frequency. In fact the fitter a person, normally, has a different level of

libido, for some it is high, for some it lower. There are many athletics for eg

that belive in sex before their races as part of their prep, its a mental

release and you don't evoke lust and are therefore more relaxed. There are many

that prefer to save the energy as that is what is more important to them.

 

Typically, being carried away into sex/masturbation is part of living more in

the mental fantasy and feeling that your creative outlets are block, since your

sexual energy is the most creative of your energies. Finding creative outlet in

an arena that you really *LOVE* is usually the best way to breaking out of this.

As you get more involved in something that you simply desire, whether it is a

hobby, sport, art, cooking, gardening, making dresses, ripping paper,

whatever,.... your creative energy will find a vent, and you'll find yourself

involved with that creative thought, thereby not having to live in the fantasy

world. Just be awareof what your feelings are , if you can .... discuss them

either on this forum.. not sure if appropriate, or you can email me and others

here directly that have chosen to respond in a manner that makes sense to you.

 

SHAME is the WORST invention of man to control others.. don't think of things in

terms of shame else you will never progress in life. what seems shameful for

one person, maybe the most important lesson s/he has come to learn in this

lifetime here today. SHAME was a concept created in roman-christian times to

control others, prevent anarchy and in other ways give direction in the choice

desired by the political powers including the church/temple at that time.

 

Many equate "SHAME" to the hindi/sanskrit word "SHARAM" these are NOT the same

at all by any means. Shame leads to guilt. Sharam comes from modesty. Both

the sources of the words are different ... by a mile. Shame controls, Sharam

yields. So in sex/masturbation or any deed, we don't look at others standards

of shame as that will truly make you live a life of regrets. You have to do

what you truly feel is right for you, learn the impact of the lesson and move

on. You should definitely way the outcome of your actions as undesirable.. but

still, they are your choices and you don't anything to be ashamed off. Shame

has been abused by the society, religion, teachers and parents because they

didn't know how to "control" your free spirit and free thought better and you

had to conform.

 

my 2 cents.

 

rose_is_sayonara <rose_is_sayonara wrote: Hi,

Masturbation is only healthy when you masturbate two times a week,

these side effects do crop up when you are doing everyday,

[Guest guest]

This is simply the most understanding, most loving response and the most true

response to the concern that the poster has. thank you teji ji! its beautiful

 

love and namaskar.

 

teji rahi <teji_rahi wrote: Dear Humble soul

Namaskar

Nature has blessed every soul with huge energy and

blessed the human being with brain.

Just open the door of your brain and see nature.If

you wish to get rid of any habit that is not

possible.Suppression is not the answer to sex.