Spritual Couple

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C O N V E N T I O N A L C O U P L E - S P I R I T U A L C O U P L E

 

We all have wished a perfect, sublime relationship with an opposite sex

human being. Some of us succeeded by the first time, others succeeded after

many failed tries, and others are still looking for. But don't worry about

this, because "everybody has his own half" as an ancient proverb tells us.

Sooner or later, you and your lover will become to enjoy the most sublime

aspects of love, depending on how fast you will be aware of the REALITY.

 

It is essential to understand the typical mistakes usually done in a so

named normal or conventional couple. From the beginning this kind of a

relationship is supposed to be a failure. Being aware of our mistakes we can

build up a perfect affair according to our best ideals.

 

Here it is a comparative analysis of the two types of couple, the

conventional one, and the spiritual one.

 

 

 

 

CONVENTIONAL COUPLE

 

SPIRITUAL COUPLE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Closed process

The couple motivations aren't clarified. For the most of the times, the

couple is modeling having a standard pattern established by the others and

not after the self-inner standards. It is preferred the security, the

stability, the transformation is avoided. That is why the individual

evolution is very slow. Everybody tries hard to be according the other one's

image of him (her); he (she) isn't acting in a free way. He (she) doesn't do

what he (she) feels.

 

Opened process

It is clearly set up the spiritual purpose, the common objectives that

constitute the foundation of the relationship. The mutual recognition of the

other one's freedom. The both lovers honestly and openly express what are

they, what do they want and what are their targets. The transformations are

accepted, there is no jealousy, and this is the reason for that the

individual evolution is very fast.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Doubt

The closed process provokes a less of self-confidence and a less of

confidence in the other. You are attached, you feel dependent. You need the

other for putting you in value.

 

Trust

An opened process makes each of the lovers aware of their independence. You

don't try to change the other one, you accept him/her as he/she is. You help

him/her by your own presence.

 

 

 

 

Competition

It appears the fight for powers (who gives orders?) and authority, conflicts

of parts. The own interest comes first. The ego has the power.

 

Understanding

Each lover has the same "rank", the same responsibilities. Each of them

respects the other one's "space" and his (her) desire to be together or

alone. Change of parts: you are here to help the other one to advance.

 

 

Dependency

You have different point of view that you want to impose. You feel alone and

unfulfilled. You are afraid of being abandoned.

 

Autonomy

Each of them is self-sufficient, not dependent on the other one. The love

confers safety. Each lover is opened to the other's desire of spiritual

evolution. So, there is a good understanding of the "tools" used by everyone

for spiritual development, (spiritual practice, spare time, travels, etc.).

This drives to spontaneity and harmony.

 

 

Conditions

The dependency provokes conditional exchanges. The relations are lead by

rules, contract, and compels. The base of the relationship is the idea of

truck: you offer if you get something in return, the attitudes are

premeditated. Manipulation.

 

Liberty

Autonomy provokes tolerance, detachment, and abandon. There is no longer the

case of domination or possessiveness. They spontaneously explore together

the joyful adventure of the aware evolution in two. Happiness, mutual

confidence, harmony.

 

 

Boredom

The lovers create rules because they don't enjoy any more spending the time

together. They enter in a routine that destroys the creativity and the

inventiveness. Each of them begins to think that the other one is his (her)

cause of unhappiness and this is the reason for that she (he) must defend

from the other one.

 

Creativity

Constantly, the lovers play the loving game. This generates good mood.

Spontaneity, inspiration, amusement. Spontaneous change of parts and duties.

There are invented new ways of love. You feel really good and happy

together.

 

 

 

 

Insecurity

You have the feeling that something is missing, you do not exactly what is

it, and you have feelings of fear, instability and culpability. You avoid

the other one or you reproach him (her) a certain behaviour that upset you.

You want to make a family hopping to find out a solution for the problem and

to find more stability.

 

Security

The profound love makes the stability feeling to appear. It can appear the

wish of having a family, not because the lovers are afraid of losing one

another, but in order to fulfil their spiritual purpose. The spiritual

merging of the two lovers induces a superior security feeling.

 

 

Sensation of couple failure

The impotence of changing the flow of events. Each lover begins to

undervalue one another. It can appear resentments that can provoke even

unbalance. Desperateness. You have the feeling that is nothing you can do.

You see no way to bring back the harmony in the couple.

 

Perfect love

Feeling of abnegation and devotion. The mutual devotion awakes the divine

essence in both lovers and the mutual abnegation generates the good mood of

the lovers. You exist for love. The love becomes cosmic so that you feel

that God is the One who loves you throughout your lover.

 

 

Separation

The only solution is the separation, the divorce. You experience the

desperateness and the loneliness that could yet be the opportunity of a

transformation, of a possible discovering of the autonomy and freedom.

 

Unity

The relationship is the opportunity to achieve the spiritual wedding or in

other words the spiritual union of the two lovers. The lovers discover the

primary love - the love between two archetypes, the male archetype and the

female one. This love leads the lovers to UNITY, divine grace and blessing.

They fulfil the ideal of any couple which is the discovering of the UNITY or

in other words of the SUPREME REALITY.