Swami's Quotations on Dharma (my mother's case)

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Dear Mari-Elise, Sai family,

i feel i should share with you; my parents had an

interview with swami (in the 1970s) in which swami

mentioned in his sweet words that my mother's "family

was not good", he said, "brothers and sisters not

good"; to this my mother replied, "swami please bless

them"

 

but what swami said is true; the family does not have

good relationship and there was a lot of problems; for

example, my uncle was a drug addict, my first aunt ran

away from home and verbal/physical abuse from my

grandmother and grandftaher, also the beatings my

uncle gave to his younger brothers and sisters (my

mother included).

 

so do we break off contact or not?

the word "break off contact", i feel, is not a

sweet-sounding word but the truth is you need to stay

away from them (so actually it means the same thing).

 

my mother does not keep in contact with her brothers

and sisters;

 

despite the fact that my youngest aunty hurt her very

badly my mother still welcomes her (and her family)

back to our home every chinese new year. a few other

aunties do not communicate with us (grandma had 10

children). but my mother will still welcome ANY

relative to comes to the house; but she does not visit

them or call them or spend time chatting etc.

 

i feel it is better for my mother this way; she has

kept her distance and everything seems OK.

 

the Chinese new year reunion once a year (to me,

truthfully) feels superficial but this is my

mother---she keeps the tradition of Open house

welcoming people, this is her kind heart that is full

of love.

 

sometimes you need to be by yourself, or with your own

family

then the wholepicture will turn out clearly, whether

it was meant to be or not.

 

love

yvonne

 

--- Mari-Elise <marielise wrote:

 

> Sai Ram dear friends,

> I got a question about the following sentence:

> 7. No reply should be given to the words of the

> wicked. Be at a great

> distance from them; that is for your good. Break off

> all relations with

> such people.

> It happens that I think about breaking contact with

> my parents. For e.g.

> to my beloved Lord Swamy, I found out that my mother

> tries to interrupt

> my marriage by influencing my daughter for the

> purpose

> of attacking me.

> Would you be so kind to help me with your comments,

> suggestions.

> Sai Ram,

>

> Mari-Elise

>

> Archana Gupta schreef:

> > '*Swami's

> Quotations on Dharma"*

> >

> > 1. One must be always vigilant, without a moment's

> carelessness,

> > against the eight sins that the mind perpetrates:

> > 1. Kamam or craving

> > 2.Krodham or anger

> > 3. Lobham or greed

> > 4. Moham or attachment

> > 5. Impatience

> > 6. Hatred

> > 7. Egoism

> > 8.Pride

> > Man's primary duty is to keep all these things at

> a safe distance from

> > himself.

> >

> > 2. Man's mind speeds fast, pursuing wrong actions.

> Without letting it

> > hurry like that remember the name of the Lord at

> that time or attempt

> > to do some good deed or other. Those who do this

> will certainly become

> > fit for the Lord's grace.

> >

> > 3. First give up the evil tendency to feel envious

> at the prosperity

> > of others and the desire to harm them. Be happy

> that others are happy.

> > Sympathise with those who are in adversity and

> wish for their

> > prosperity. That is the means of cultivating love

> for God.

> >

> > 4. Patience is all the strength that man needs.

> >

> > 5. Those anxious to live in joy must always be

> doing good.

> >

> > 6. It is easy to conquer anger through love,

> attachment through

> > reasoning, falsehood through truth., bad through

> good and greed

> > through charity.

> >

> > 7. No reply should be given to the words of the

> wicked. Be at a great

> > distance from them; that is for your good. Break

> off all relations

> > with such people.

> >

> > 8. Seek the company of good men, even at the

> sacrifice of your honour

> > and life. But be praying to God to bless you with

> the discrimination

> > needed to distinguish between the good and men and

> the bad. You must

> > aso edeavour, with the intellect given to you.

> >

> > 9. Those who conquer states and earn fame in the

> world are hailed as

> > heroes, no doubt; but those who have conquered the

> senses are heroes

> > who must be acclaimed as the conquerors of the

> Universal.

> >

> > 10. Whatever acts as good or bad may do, the

> fruits thereof follow him

> > and will never stop pursuing him.

> >

> > 11. Greed yields only sorrow; contentment is best.

> There is no

> > happiness greater than contentment.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > *Sai Ram*

> > *Archana*

> > **

> > *"SERVICE TO MAN IS SERVICE TO GOD"----Baba

> > *

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