FIX YOURSELF

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FIX YOURSELF

"We see that people have a tendency to scandalize others, un-necessarily; and

this brings on hatred and ill-will" -Sri Sai Satcharitra, Ch XIX.

It seems so easy for us to look at someone else and see everything that they

need to do to improve themselves. It seems so easy to ‘fix’ someone else... To

see everything they could change in their personality relationships, attitudes,

patterns, and lives in general. When you find yourself doing that, you can be

sure that if you turned that projection around and applied it to yourself you

would discover many truths and have some astonishing revelations.

If you desire to see where you need to do some clearing, try this... The next

time you find yourself blaming, judging, or criticising someone, ask yourself:

"How do I exhibit this behaviour also? How does this apply to my actions and

thoughts?" I would be willing to bet that if you are honest with yourself

you’ll discover some amazing truths... or rather; I should say, some amazing

illusions.

If people around you are acting out of anger, look within yourself and find out

what you are angry about. If you find yourself in conversation where the

‘other’ is judging and criticising, ask yourself how you are being judgemental

and critical. It could be behaviour that you are directing towards others or

towards yourself. Having you been finding yourself wanting in certain areas?

Remember that the ‘other’ is always a reflection of you. So rather than expend

energy trying to ‘fix’ the other, use that energy where it can really make a

difference... ‘fix’ yourself. Look at yourself and see what needs clearing.

A saying that I really like from peace Pilgrim is "If the thoughts you are

thinking have not brought you peace, keep trying..."

Many times our past behaviour has tended towards judging and blaming, when those

energies definitely do not bring peace. How do you feel when you are in the

middle of those energies? Definitely not peaceful and loving, right?

Not only is judging and blaming harmful to yourself, to your inner peace and

joy, but it is futile... unless you turn it around and apply it to yourself!

When you use it as a learning tool, then you can really make a difference-in

yourself.

The next time you find yourself judging or blaming someone else, remember to ask

your Higher Self to show you How you are really judging and blaming yourself.

And please forgive yourself for all of these old patterns. This was simply

learned behaviour and it can be replaced with a more useful and loving energy.

When you find yourself in any situation that seems to call up unloving responses

in you, remember that you have a choice. You can make yourself miserable by

staying in the judgement and blame, or you can release the other person to

Spirit. Everyone has the right to make their own ‘mistakes’ and to learn in the

way they choose. Rather than place your focus on them, place it on yourself.

Everything that comes to you is an opportunity for love and healing. Everything

is there to help us regain our inner peace and innate state of love and harmony.

Make it a daily practice. Look around you (and within you) and see what

situations have been bringing up thoughts unlike love. Then use those

situations as mirrors. Look at them and see... This is especially powerful in

those situations where we find ourselves reacting strongly to someone or to a

situation. If it’s pushing your buttons, then you can be sure there is

something you need to look at. As a wise friend of mine said, "If you didn’t

have any buttons, I wouldn’t be able to push them!" So the next time someone

pushes your buttons, then you can be sure there is something you need to look

at. As a wise friend of mine said, "If you didn’t have any buttons, I wouldn’t

be able to push them!" So the next time someone pushes your buttons, get rid of

the button.... instead of blaming the button pusher.

(Courtesy: Dignity Dialogue- March 2004)

Tamaso Ma Jyotirgamaya....

Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.

Where there is patience and humility, there is neither anger or vexation.

Where there is poverty with joy, there is neither greed nor avarice.

Where there is peace and meditation, there is neither anxiety nor doubt.

Where there is fear of the Lord stands guard, there the enemy finds no entry.

Where there is mercy and moderation, there is neither indulgence nor harshness.

-St. Francis of Assisi.

 

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