Guest guest Posted January 25, 2006 Report Share Posted January 25, 2006 (a short story) This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Think about this story the next time when you get anger, because of your kids actions.We've to control our anger. If we can't... it grow endless, and, do harm... first the opposer, and, then oneself. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. (from the net) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2006 Report Share Posted January 25, 2006 Jai Sai Ram, So sad! Very important lesson learned hard way. Of course the poor boy lost his fingers as well as his father....very heavy price for one's limitless anger! My mother in law always emphasise on controlling anger especially dealing with a child. She used to say never ever hit your child, however angry you are with the mischief of your child, instead of slapping the child, divert the same slap to your face! How true! If this gentleman had followed the same priciple, the boy would have certainly stopped denting the truck and the result would have been totally different! Jai Sai Ram. Meera --- Ranganath B <brngupta wrote: > BE PATIENT*** > (a short story) > This is a true story which happened in the States. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2006 Report Share Posted January 25, 2006 Om Jai Sai Raam Brother Ranganath, Embodiments of love.. What a wonderful lesson to al A reminder to all….Anger as Swami says,” Equals to One of the evils of life” Anger, however, is simpler to define than it is to identify. Emotions of antagonism can take on a wide variety of faces. Expressions of anger range from the overt, in-your-face brand of open hostility to the cool indifference of a silent stare. windowtext"> color:navy">At times, anger can feel like an inner fire. It hits you in the gut. You see red and feel hot and sweaty. Your stomach churns; your blood pressure rises, and your breathing rate increases as if you're laboring under a heavy weight. Outwardly, your body responds to the internal activity with a flushed appearance. You perspire, your nostrils may flare, and your jaw tightens. Many people describe their experience of anger as their blood boiling. windowtext"> tab-stops:list .5in"> color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext;font-weight:bold">1. Destructive, Selfish Anger. In most cases, the anger that moves a person to do harm to himself or others is selfish. It is the kind of anger that destroys rather than builds up. It is more like a wrecking ball than a hammer. The first explicit mention of anger in all the holy books shows its potential to kill. margin-left:.25in">Anger does not just cause harm to others but mainly to yourself… mso-color-alt:windowtext"> margin-left:.25in">ADRENALINE and other chemicals pour into the bloodstream. windowtext"> mso-list:l2 level1 lfo4;tab-stops:list .5in">THE HEART pumps faster. mso-list:l2 level1 lfo4;tab-stops:list .5in">BLOOD PRESSURE rises. mso-list:l2 level1 lfo4;tab-stops:list .5in">BLOODFLOW quickens. 10.0pt;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l2 level1 lfo4;tab-stops:list .5in">MUSCLES tense. color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l2 level1 lfo4;tab-stops:list .5in">Hence you put more pressure on your heart….and body…The body is considered a temple so use it for the right reasons… mso-bidi-font-size:10.0pt;color:navy">Just a tip for each one of us…. font-family:Verdana;mso-bidi-font-family:Arial;color:red">How to Control Anger Sometimes feelings of anger build up without us even knowing it. Therefore, it helps to know how to control anger. It may be helpful to think of your anger management as a traffic light. 10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> font-weight:bold">Red light represents extreme anger; immediately come to a stop. Try one of the following: mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Take a time out. mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Talk with a friend, relative, counselor or someone you trust. Arial;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Splash water on your face. mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Get away from the place of tension if you cannot leave because you are watching children, walk into another room. color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Walk around the block. Take a jog mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Write down your feelings, possibly in a diary or journal. Arial;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Take a deep breath. mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Count to 10. mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Exercise. 10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l0 level1 lfo5;tab-stops:list .5in">Do something constructive, such as gardening, reading or other hobbies. Arial;color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> font-weight:bold">Yellow light represents moderate anger. Now is a good time to organize your thoughts before trying to talk to the person with whom you are angry. Sharing your problem with others and seeking advice may also be helpful. Next, try to figure out the needs of the person(s) with whom you are angry. Why did they act that way toward you? Do they have certain needs that you were not aware of at the time? In addition to their needs, what are yours? Knowing your needs and those of the other person(s) involved is helpful in understanding the source of your anger. In organizing your thoughts, remember the ABCs of communication: mso-color-alt:windowtext"> font-weight:bold">ASK yourself three simple questions: mso-list:l3 level1 lfo6;tab-stops:list .5in">What am I feeling? mso-list:l3 level1 lfo6;tab-stops:list .5in">Why do I feel this way? mso-list:l3 level1 lfo6;tab-stops:list .5in">What is the source of my anger? mso-color-alt:windowtext"> Writing about your feelings is a good outlet. font-weight:bold">BEFORE talking to the person(s) with whom you are angry, think of some ways to prevent the anger-producing situation in the future: mso-list:l4 level1 lfo7;tab-stops:list .5in">Remember how you felt during the situation. mso-color-alt:windowtext"> mso-list:l4 level1 lfo7;tab-stops:list .5in">Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to understand why he or she acted that way. mso-list:l4 level1 lfo7;tab-stops:list .5in">What would you have done in their position? color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> font-weight:bold">COMMUNICATE your feelings in a positive manner…Swami says, Drink a cold glass of water and cool down, or stare at your face in the mirror “ color:navy;mso-color-alt:windowtext"> color:navy"> Man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that Swami desires for us! I offer my humble pranaams at the lotus feet of the beloved Lord Sai. Your sister in Sai. Radhey Of Canada. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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