Sai Inspires - 11th December 2005 from Prashanti Nilayam-Very Inspiring

[Guest guest]

Thank you for such awe-inspiring information and examples!!!! This was a

wonderful piece sought out to give us a deeper understanding or being humble

and controlling our angers.

Anger is an emotional response to a perceived injustice. Anger is a justice

issue. It stems from feeling that we or someone else has been wronged. We all

experience anger. But we fail to control this ENEMY within rather we let it

ruin us outwardly...

Anger is one of the most poorly handled emotions in society today - but it doesn't have to be.

Swami has said, WHAT CAUSES ANGER? Some common causes are:

Frustration

Hurt

Annoyance

Disappointment

Harassment

Threats

For a slip of the tongue can NEVER BE MENDED...

HOW DOES THE BODY REACT TO ANGER? Anger doesn't actually make the "blood boil"

or your eyes "see red." But it does cause certain changes in the body. Here's

what happens:

ADRENALINE and other chemicals pour into the bloodstream.

THE HEART pumps faster.

BLOOD PRESSURE rises.

BLOODFLOW quickens.

MUSCLES tense.

IN OTHER WORDS, the body shifts into high gear, generating energy needed for

action.Learn how this energy can work to your advantage ~~ or disadvantage.

Knowing how to recognize and express anger appropriately can help you:

REACH GOALS - SOLVE PROBLEMS - HANDLE EMERGENCIES

IGNORING ANGER DOES NOT WORK

Failing to deal with your anger may lead to:

HEALTH PROBLEMS.

TENSION

ACCIDENTS

INTERPERSONAL PROBLEMS.

UNCONTROLLED ANGER CAN BE DANGEROUSIt may lead to:

CRIME - ABUSE - MORE VIOLENT BEHAVIOR

FOLLOW THESE STEPS to keep anger under control.

Recognize your anger.

Identify the cause.

Decide what to do.

KEEP YOUR COOL WHEN EXPRESSING YOUR ANGER

Follow these "do's":

Do Calm Down: Before you discuss the issues. Shouting matches rarely lead to effective solutions.

Do Understand Your Motives: Before you express your anger. Are you trying to

defeat the person, or are you trying to solve the problem? If your motive is

negative, the results may be too.

Do Be Assertive: Not aggressive. Express yourself firmly and clearly without

making insulting remarks. Understand the importance of negotiation and

compromise.

Do Seek Help: If you have trouble communicating your anger constructively or if,

you get angry too often. Talk with a friend about your problem, OR SWAMI has

fondly said, stare at your face in the mirror and make funny faces, or drink a

cold glass of water.

Some fun ways of controlling your anger....

Humor - Don't waste your energy becoming angry over minor problems that can't be

helped. Find the humor in the situation.

Physical Activity- Walking, golfing, weightlifting, can be an excellent outlet

for angry feelings. Don't let competition or personal limitations frustrate

you. (Consult your health-care provider before starting an exercise program.)

Rest and Relaxation- Get plenty of sleep to avoid irritability. Meditation,

breathing exercises and deep muscular relaxation are also good ways to reduce

tension.

Time Out- When you are angry, take time to calm down and think. Then discuss the

issue with the person involved or with a friend.

Hobbies- Instead of flying off the handle, put your energy into a carpentry

project, pulling weeds in the garden or any hobby you enjoy...

Thank you once again Ramesh Bhaiya, I always look forwarding to reading your

articles...may Swami bless you and guide.

To everyone reading these articles may Swami fill us with his love, helping us

to show and feel love all the time and not giving in to anger ..may we be the

conqueror and not the destroyer.

I offer my most humble and loving pranaams at thy lotus feet of the beloved Lord

Sai-Lord of the Universe....

In Sai's Love

Your Sister Radhey of Canada.

Om Sri Sai Raam

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