No time for kids?

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Sai Ram

Read the article on Non violent parenting and it was of great inspiration,

rather a relief to know that parents can still have such noble thinking.

Jai Sai Ram

Here is a touching incident…

A man came home from work late again, tired and irritated, to find his 5 year

old son waiting for him at the door."Daddy, may I ask you a question? "Yeah,

what is it?" replied the man."Daddy, how much money do you make an

hour?""That's none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?" the man

said angrily."I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an

hour?" pleaded the boy."If you must know, I make $20.00 an hour.""Oh," the

little boy replied, head bowed. Looking up, he said, "Daddy, may I borrow

$10.00 please?"The father was furious. "If the only reason you wanted to know

how much money I make is just so you can borrow some to buy a silly toy or some

other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. I

work long, hard hours everyday and don't have time for such childish games."

The little boy quietly went to his room

and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even madder about the

little boy's questioning. After an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and

started to think he may have been a little hard on his son. And he really

didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the little boy's room and

opened the door. "I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier,"

said the man. "It's been a long day and I took my aggravation out on you.

Here's that $10.00 you asked for." The little boy sat straight up, beaming.

"Oh, thank you daddy!" he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow, he pulled

out some more crumpled up bills and counted them. The man, seeing the boy

already had money, started to get angry again."Why did you want more money if

you already had some?" the father grumbled. "Because I didn't have enough, but

now I do," the little boy replied. "Daddy, I have $20.00 now. Can I buy an hour

of your

time?"

 

If this touched you, well… think about it. And do something now so that YOUR

child never asks this to you!

Swami gives great emphasis on Parenting, especially the role of Mothers, since

the character of the child, the future citizen, is entirely in the hands of the

parents. One thing parents ought to realize is that they cannot plan and

calculate their child’s future by having their own ambitions and imposing it on

the child. The first thing to be developed in the child is self confidence and

free thinking, and of course, faith in God. In the moulding of character, no

books, no personality development programs, no disciplinary action will help.

The one and only instrument is LOVE. Let the child feel loved, feel wanted, let

him realize that he has someone to fall back on, someone to open out his fears,

share his joys, and above all, someone who has TIME for him. This is what is

lacking in families today. The only time spent together is in front of the

blaring T.V. No wonder Swami calls it TeleVisham. Parents

MUST find time for their children, not to read out lessons, not to advice them

on honesty and sacrifice… but just to be with them, listen to them, and give

them the feeling that ‘someone cares’. A child brought up with Love does not

have to be taught honesty, sacrifice or kindness. He won’t, at any cost, kick

his parents out, into some old age home. In fact, such children grow up to be

better parents than their own!