Guest guest Posted April 18, 2005 Report Share Posted April 18, 2005 Sairam to all brothers and sisters. Please accept my greetings for Rama Navami. I am giving below something written by a Management consultant which reaffirms what Bhagawan tells us all the time. Although no such reaffirmation is required, all of us living in the materialistic world tend to forget basic lessons. Radhakrishnan 90/10 Principle By: Steven Covey Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A. Did the coffee cause it? B. Did your daughter cause it? C. Did the policeman cause it? D. Did you cause it? The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? * Do you lose your temper? * Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall Off) * Do you curse? * Does your blood pressure skyrocket? * Do you try to bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive. Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why are stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2005 Report Share Posted April 18, 2005 Brother Radhakrishnan has send us all a very nice and apt story. The 10 / 90 principle is very applicable to life. Even our beloved Swamis has said the same thing when explaining about KARMA. Swami says that we all have an invisible karma kantamala - garland of karma - around our neck when we are born. The garland is the net effect of our karmas uptil the previous life we lived. All good and bad actions are given numbers and everything is reduced to one digit - that digit can represent any thing - it can be an honour or an insult, it can be a promotion or demotion, it can be glory or disgrace - this is the 10% - but when anyone of these honour / insult etc are offered to us repeatedly at intervals we will react positive or negative - if what is happening is to our liking - we can become elated and booastful and if thinks are not to our liking we may get depressed - both the elation and depression cause many further reactions - which are what we are sowing in this birth, seeds of elation or depression will make us reap the same fruit. While the 10% is not in our hands - the 90% God gave in our hands - reaction is our choice - no one can force us to react in a particular way, but our discrimination makes us see light. So 90% or our karma descides whether we are going to be back here soon or we get liberated from this cycle. Sai Ram - Be Happy JP PS: It is not karma alone, but the viel of maya makes karma more profound. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ R Nair <r.nair (AT) vsnl (DOT) co.in> wrote: Sairam to all brothers and sisters. 90/10 PrincipleBy: Steven CoveyHave you read this before? For devotees of Sri Sathya Sai Baba - Important Announcement. SAI AT - project, to comemmorate Bhagwan Baba's 80th Year of Advent, has been launched. For details http://www.sailopics.com/80th_Year_of_Advent/80th_year_of_advent.htm You can become project members of this memorable project if you have a SAILOGRAM or SAI SILVER or SAI GOLD or procure one after reading this. Sai Ram - Be Happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2005 Report Share Posted April 19, 2005 pratik reddy <pratikreddy68 Mon Apr 18, 2005 2:01pm Re: Steven Covey's 90/10 Principle. Thank you for sharing Stephen Covey's principles. It is very much in line with our Bhagawan's teachings and we all need these reminders from time to time With Sai love, Pratik ---------- Kabenesh Eliathamby <saikabenesh_naaltab Mon Apr 18, 2005 10:13pm Re: Steven Covey's 90/10 Principle. Must Read! Sai Ram bro. ! A very meaningful article which will help us in making the right decisions in life. Thank you bro. Sai Ram, Kabi86 ---------- Rajasekhar Polapragada <helpyoursociety Tue Apr 19, 2005 9:56am Re: [saibabanews] Re: Steven Covey's 90/10 Principle. Must Read! sairam. enjoyed both 90/ 10 principle and jitindarji's comment. As both man'effort and God' grace are required to achieve any thing. Again, God's grace can be earned by self efforts , governed by samskara (past karma or vsanas) . Net result is as sage Vashista told Srirama ," anything and every thing is achieved inthis world by purusha prayatna(self effort )either the effort of this life or earlier life. If any time, efort is not succesful, check if it is not motivated by illusion(maya). if not ( if effort is as per dharma and yet not succesful), then more efforts are required to achieve results to nullify the unseen self efforts done in opositie direction(past karma). In summary, go on doing on good karma till the seed of past karma is buried in the soil and willnot germinate. Hath me kaam, hotom pe Ram ka naam. sairam Rajasekahr - Bahrain. saibabanews, "R Nair" <r.nair@v...> wrote: > > Sairam to all brothers and sisters. ....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 SAI RAM These are some of the gems from Steven Covey which he has published on self development.Yes, Mention of these and many more on self development tools are found in VEDA AND PURANA.The only difference being Authors like Steven Covey, Zig Zigler and Deepak Chopra have made them USER FRIENDLY and tailored them to suit the NEED of the day.Regards / Jwalant Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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