Can someone help... regarding Swami's teachings on Love and Marriage

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Can someone answer the following questions with reference to Swami's

teachings and experiences of Sai devotees?

 

1) Does Swami allow marriages between Westerners and Indians (when

both are devotees)?

 

I read the following quote of Swami in His Discourse on 8th March

1997, somewhat related to this.

 

"In following Swami's teachings people tend to follow them according

to their convenience. For instance, when Swami said that there is only

one caste, the caste of humanity, this statement is used as authority

for uninhibited marriages between any two persons. This is a travesty

of Swami's teaching. Caste differences are to be eliminated. But

cultural differences should be respected. Swami has emphasized that

every cultural group should adhere to its culture. Swami's teachings

should be adhered to in their entirety and not selectively according

to one's convenience."

 

Are there any exceptions to this? I mean, are there any instances

where Swami allowed marriages between devotees belonging to various

cultures, particularly between India and West?

 

2) Can a woman marry a man younger to her? Did Swami say anything

about this? I heard once Swami told the students that Seetha is elder

to Rama. Please share any instances where Swami allowed/prohibited

such a marriage, if someone knows.

 

3) What is Swami's stand on love marriages?

 

Thank you very much

JAI SAIRAM

Sandesh

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"Hirdesh" <hirdesh

Wed Mar 2, 2005 9:22am

RE: [saibabanews] Can someone help... regarding Swami's

teachings on Love and Marriage

 

Aum Sai Ram

 

All in the world, happens only by the WILL of the LORD. Not even a

blade of grass can move without the LORD'S wish. Follow your heart

and if your conscience is happy, you would be at peace.

 

Aum Sai Ram

 

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"narendra kumar lodhia" <KUMNA1

Wed Mar 2, 2005 4:54pm

RE: [saibabanews] Can someone help... regarding Swami's

teachings on Love and Marriage

 

jai sai ram

 

god is love and love is god

 

my brother is married to scotish he is indian as long as u love each

other and respect love i belive that should be ok and most of all if

i were u i would request swami to entervine and ask 4 his permission.

 

also blessings

 

wish u well may the joy of our most beloved swami dwell in u richly.

 

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Parthasarathy Rajagopal <partha915

Wed Mar 2, 2005 5:29pm

Re: [saibabanews] Can someone help... regarding Swami's

teachings on Love and Marriage

 

Sairam:

Swami has said yes to some marriages between two

different cultures. Some time He said no for such

union. Sir marriage is between two souls to learn to

become one. So do the marriage according to your

conscience. Vedic scriptures are not saying that

marriage is between two individuals but between two

Souls. But tradition is to perform the wedding to a

male and female. Krishna's grand mother was a Naga.

K. M. Munshi is talking about this. So still two

individuals from two cultures could get married and

preserve both the cultures. In Ohio there lives a

couple, one spouse is Indian and another one is

Westerner. Baba blessed this wedding. One or two same

sex marriage is also blessed by Swami. I can not

authenticate this.

 

 

 

 

 

saibabanews, Sai Sandesh <saisandesh@g...>

wrote:

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> Can someone answer the following questions with reference to

> Swami's teachings and experiences of Sai devotees? ......

[Guest guest]

SaiRam,

 

Swami says everything keeping in view our ultimate goal namely, Liberation. If

a marriage helps us overcome any of our obstacles in our path to liberation, He

would definitely say yes to it. For example, Swami has said Marriage could

immensely help us overcome our ego.

 

I have also read in several books written by devotees of Baba, that for some

couples before any marriage he would warn them about certain things. Before

marriage it is better to settle matters regarding ones life style. I have come

across instances such as one of spouses not having the same beliefs as the

other. For instance one would want to worship Baba and the other one wouldn't

even believe in Baba. This could be a problem when the couples don't respect

or understand each other. Remember ABC (Always Be Careful). Swami has said

about one of His woman devotees. Swami said that she agreed to marry only if

her husband would let her go to Puttaparthi to see Swami whenever she wishes.

 

In my own case, I believed in Baba before marriage. But I never had a photo of

Bhagavan Sri Sathya Sai Baba at the altar. After marriage I got a photo of

Swami and kept it in my altar so I could meditate on it. Fortunately my

husband has a very liberal or open attitude and respects others' faiths. My

in-laws protested at first for some weird reason due to some issues in the

family. Usually they are quite liberal like my husband. I prayed to Swami

that I will put up with anything but not deny me my faith and my worshipping

and adoring Swami. The second time they visited us, I was pleasantly surprised

by their attitude. They did not raise any objections. Swami will always

protect His devotees.

 

Love to All

 

SaiRam