Guest guest Posted August 14, 2004 Report Share Posted August 14, 2004 Sai Ram Thanks for the wonderful story. Not only was it a reality check but an indication of how strong love really is. I left my family when i was 16 years old to pursue a career in the US. They are the ones who wanted to give me the opportunity to make something out of my life. Now that I am 28 years old, the realisation of what time can do is hard to accept. Although I am 12000 miles away, I still feel them. Through long conversations over the phone they are filled with love, happiness and satisfaction that I have never forgotten them. I am so proud to call them my role models. Although my heart aches everyday to be with them, I know it is my Karma to be here. I have been blessed to know them and love them. Now only with the grace of our lord that I have been praying too for a long time, will he reunite us. I remember reading a sign that had Baba's words posted on it. Forgive me if im wrong about this. " You could have the highest social status, the highest form of education, the biggest bank account, but if your parents are in distress your life has been a tragic waste" (baba). I dont have any children, but I could only imagine how parents heart hurts not to have the love from them or be treated right. Lets not forget, not today and not tomorrow about how we are just PAIR RENTING. Thanks to our lord again. Sai ram to all. Sai ram Thiroshan Mail is new and improved - Check it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2004 Report Share Posted August 14, 2004 Aum Sri Sairam Sairam Thiroshan, I was reading your message (have not deleted from reply with a reason). What you feel is real and what Sai says is TRUTH. I was in your same situation, but now I have left the US for my parents sake and have taken up a position in singapore so that I can be at reach of my parents and vice versa. It is just a suggestion to you if you can try anything that would suit you near the place where your parents reside (am not sure where. You could use all your talents and it is an independent variable. It does not depend on place and time. And more than that His grace will surely flow if you take the first step. It is my own first hand experience. The day I strongly felt I need to leave the US for my parents sake, there was an opportunity open in Singapore, which was highly co-ordinated by the eternal director. My father is on dialysis and my mother is alone to handle her. And so I came back and served them for 2-1/2 months. I was immensly satisfied from the depth of my heart. I have no words to express those. Though I would be very tired physially when my day would end, I was thoroughly contented from inside. And this even gave me better control on my mind (which always wavers). So, just try it out. Take a firm resolve and you will see the doors opening automatically. For parents sacrifice their everything for our well being. And we should be mature enough to understand them and their points. For, they even compromise their own happiness for our sake. And afterall life with those atma in this form is only once. So why leave the opportunity to satisfy them ? I guess I have written a long expressive mail. In Service at His Lotus Feet. Love and Light, Ananth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2004 Report Share Posted August 15, 2004 What a beutiful reply. I am in a very similar situation . Though my borthers and sisters are in the same city no one wants to take the responsiblity of taking care of an aging mother. Due to differences between my wife and my mother I cannot keep her at my home. I constanty find myself negotiating between my sisters as to who looks afer her. The above situation and my situation at home has taken a huge toll on my mental happiness. I find myself crying to the Lord everyday for the last 10 yeards to resolve this situation amicably. I am still waiting for Swami's decision. I wonder how many of us are in such a situatin and how once copes with it. <ananth_mm wrote: Aum Sri Sairam Sairam Thiroshan, I was reading your message (have not deleted from reply with a reason). What you feel is real and what Sai says is TRUTH. ...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2004 Report Share Posted August 15, 2004 SaiRam Brother, You have to take the decision, not Swami. You have been placed in such a situation to help you to learn to take the right decision. Every painful karma is also an opportunity to learn what has not been learned in our previous lives. I speak from experience. I am an only child of my parents. I have been living in the West for 10 years with my family. As the years went by, I saw that my parents living in India would require help as they were aging and no one else was really there to help. Swami made it very clear to me one year at Puttaparthi that no matter what, parents came first. He said that we are indebted to parents in a unique way. This is because they have been the vehicles for human birth. This is the foremost debt and obligation in human life that has to be repayed in the form of service. Duty towards parents come before that towards husbands and wives. That was His teaching to me. Regards Jayashree ---------- UserCh6257 Sun Aug 15, 2004 2:58pm Re: [saibabanews] Re: Mothers, the hearts of us all Dear Sai Devotees, I was reading your massages , what we all fell is real happen these day every one face in life. So please only we pray to Swami " GOD" I notice you waiting for Swami Decision Good. GOD WELL HELP THOSE PEOPLES WHO HELP THAM SELF. Sai Ram Love & Light, chana saibabanews, V Dear <aetun2000> wrote: > What a beutiful reply. I am in a very similar situation. ...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2004 Report Share Posted August 15, 2004 I really dont know where to begin. Firstly I want to say to brother Ananth in Singapore, I commend you for moving back to your parents in Singapore. Brother "V Dear" forgive me for not knowing your name, the best advice I can offer you brother is dont let anyone come between you and your mom. The last thing we need in our lives is regrets. I certainly dont want to have any regrets . Sister Jayashree, thank you for your wonderful insight on this situation. It sounds like the right thing to do after having your experience in india. There are thousands of immigrants who leave their parents and families to seek better opportunities abroad. I am in that same boat. Never did I realise how painful it gets. I am really close to my parents, like Im sure yourll are. I live for their happiness, for one of the reasons being is that they broke their backs working just so that we could have a good education and good opportunity that they never had. You just never know how to repay them. have been living in the US for about 11 years now. I came over when i was 17. The scary thing is that its time to get married and settle down. I know if I get married here and have a family, the chances of seeing my family frequently goes right out of the door. I have to choose between a girl who is the most amazing person I have met aside from my parents. She has every quality that swami wants us to have as human beings. I have to make such a tough decision. My heart breaks and tears just thinking about this. I certainly love my parents more than anythign in the world. I really dont know what to do. I am so lost in all of this. I just hope that Swami is sitting by me reading this prayer mail. I just need the slightest direction in which way to turn. Thank you all for you support and I welcome your thoughts and opinions. May swami continue to bless you and fill you with love. sai ram Thiroshan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2004 Report Share Posted August 15, 2004 Aum Sri Sairam Sairam ! This was amicably put. Well, if it has to be put in a way which is acceptable for all, then we should say that we need to deal with each situation distinctly. Each situation requries its own judgement, implementation and reaction. And all that one has to do is to use our defence weapons of discrimination, patience and resourcefullness to deal with a situation. And then every painful situation turns itself to be a lesson and make us wise. This wisdom is nothing but our elevation towards detachment. Only if we are attached then we have resulting pain. Otherwise it is only duty oriented. And result is contentment. If wives do not accept that parents should be taken care of, then I guess it is time for a call towards a conversation (neither a discussion or arguement) wherein basic aspects of life has to be put forward and accepted. A properly directed conversation should end up with a better understanding. And for this we surely need to elevate ourself to a threshold mature level of acceptance of any reaction (we may call it hurt when our ego takes the form otherwise it is just a miscommunication). It is the same when husbands do not acccept rather not understand. We are all children who are still pondering to understand many things. Do we not easily accept when someone tells us in a simple manner ? It is just a complex thinking as a result of laziness and not wanting to think, that results in baseless and meaningless talks. Otherwise we have the immense capability to present every feeling of ours in a very elegant and simple manner so that the other can understand. Just try out these ! To think simple, to present simple and to be simple. Everything works out well. And one can feel Sai presiding over every act of our simple living. I have just put down my own experience after so much of research into it, ofcourse with our Lord's grace. In service at His Lotus Feet. ! Love and Light, Ananth --- anumitra2002 <anumitra2002 wrote: SaiRam Brother, You have to take the decision, not Swami. You have been placed in such a situation to help you to learn to take the right decision. ...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2004 Report Share Posted August 15, 2004 Swamy has very beautifully and firmly conveyed our responsibilities to our father and mother parent means we have to pay rent, we have to return for all the sufferings and sacrifices they have willingly undertaken to bring us up they didnt just watch us grow. every Divine Discourse of Bhagwan particularly on the occasion of Easwramma day, highlights the duty of chilren towards parents. In our lives the discord starts between mother&Daughter in law for simple reasons. I have found, the situation can be resolved if we can show the same kindness to wife's parents also. Sarve Y Sukhinah Santhu Sarve Santhu Niramayah, SarveBhadrani Pasyanthu Maa kaschith Dukhmapnuyaath meaning: May al be Happy May all be Healthy May all see auspicious things May none suffer. V Dear wrote: > What a beutiful reply. I am in a very similar situation....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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