To Adrianne on brothers (wasTalk by br. Dayamritaji 2/28/97)

[Guest guest]

Dear Adrianne,

Namah Shivaya,

 

It's amazing how deep the pain can cut, when it comes to our brothers whom we

love. I'm very sorry to hear about your brother's e-mails. Just recently, I

cried many tears over the relationship between my brother & I, (or lack

thereof). I cried to Amma about it, tried not to react to what I thought I

perceived, & by Amma's Grace, we plan to spend our first Christmas together in

probably about 25 years.

 

In a recentl post, Amma was quoted sayingto try to think of those who mistreat

us as ignorant children. I feel Amma really pressed this point with me at a

retreat. I was feeling badly about devotees who I felt mistreated me, & when I

came close to the stage, Amma gave a warm & welcoming smile to me. Within about

10 minutes, all of the aforementioned devotees had come up for darshan. I could

see their faces approaching & leaving Amma. Amma must've helped me to see them

all as just children of the Divine Mother. Amma also allowed me to see my now

decesaed mother as her child This attitude really seems to help. I will pray

for you & your brother.

 

Love,

 

Sweta

 

 

 

Adriane <a1driane wrote: I needed this right when I read it!

Thank you for posting this

wonderful talk. I have just finished reading some really hurtful

emails from my younger brother that are breaking my heart. I think

he hates me! It has made me so sad. I love my younger brother. He

called me many names and put me down. How do you handle such a

thing? I am disappointed as I hoped to be close to him. But he also

tried to tell me that my whole family hates me. LOL..maybe they do!

But I don't think so. Maybe I should be writing Dear Abby. I am not

angry with him, more sad and disappointed. That is all. I am glad I

had this to turn to at this time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Darling Sweta,

This was so incredibly sweet. I hope that you and your brother have

reconciled. I appreciate the message from Amma to regard those who

mistreat us as ignorant children. I came to realize my brother has

much unresolved pain and I am a safe venue for him to place his rage

and pain. He knows I will continue to love him. I can't help it. He

was my baby brother (we are only 2 yrs apart.) But I recall his

adorable face as children when we would have lunch together and his

exuburance over small things in life. WE both loved green beans and

potatoes and I remember him just jumping for joy when mother

announced what she was making one day. He used to sleep in the dog

house with the dog because he loved him so much (and thought the dog

house was a type of treehouse, I guess.

 

I remember in our youth, his bright, darling cheerful face full of

joy. I wish I had a way to give that back to him. His heart was

broken over time. Over the years, after much emotional abuse, he

never felt he fit in with the family. He was picked on. It's not his

fault. My father just didn't know how to treat the boys in the

family. I know so many men who have the "dad" issue. I'm glad to see

more fathers of today trying not to make that same error with their

own sons. It's tough I guess for men to find that "feminine" side

for fear of criticism in our macho Western world. In the same way

that women try to fully balance into their "male" side and being

criticized for that. Hopefully we will all continue to strive for

that balance.

 

thanks again, Sweta!

love

adriane

 

 

 

 

Ammachi, Sweta Mitzel <swetabc wrote:

>

> Dear Adrianne,

> Namah Shivaya,

>

> It's amazing how deep the pain can cut, when it comes to our

brothers whom we love. I'm very sorry to hear about your brother's

e-mails. Just recently, I cried many tears over the relationship

between my brother & I, (or lack thereof). I cried to Amma about

it, tried not to react to what I thought I perceived, & by Amma's

Grace, we plan to spend our first Christmas together in probably

about 25 years.

>

> In a recentl post, Amma was quoted sayingto try to think of those

who mistreat us as ignorant children. I feel Amma really pressed

this point with me at a retreat. I was feeling badly about devotees

who I felt mistreated me, & when I came close to the stage, Amma

gave a warm & welcoming smile to me. Within about 10 minutes, all

of the aforementioned devotees had come up for darshan. I could see

their faces approaching & leaving Amma. Amma must've helped me to

see them all as just children of the Divine Mother. Amma also

allowed me to see my now decesaed mother as her child This attitude

really seems to help. I will pray for you & your brother.

>

> Love,

>

> Sweta

>

>

>

> Adriane <a1driane wrote: I needed this right when I read

it! Thank you for posting this

> wonderful talk. I have just finished reading some really hurtful

> emails from my younger brother that are breaking my heart. I

think

> he hates me! It has made me so sad. I love my younger brother. He

> called me many names and put me down. How do you handle such a

> thing? I am disappointed as I hoped to be close to him. But he

also

> tried to tell me that my whole family hates me. LOL..maybe they

do!

> But I don't think so. Maybe I should be writing Dear Abby. I am

not

> angry with him, more sad and disappointed. That is all. I am glad

I

> had this to turn to at this time.

> Messenger with Voice. PC-to-Phone calls for ridiculously

low rates.

>

>

>