To Supriti about Gramma, Food, Guilt

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Supriti wrote:

 

>> ...Standing in guilt means I are not doing, not dealing, not living, not

loving, not

>> confronting, not changing. Especially guilt means one is spending time

dogging oneself >> for thing that happened in the past. My own experience has

been that when I confront

>> issues in the moment, when I decided to do or let it go, then I no longer

have time or

>> energy to stand in guilt.

>> Guilt is like being in the jail corner on the monopoly game board. As

long as one sits in >> jail, life outside the jail goes on, other people play

around the jail. The get out of jail card >> is JUST DO IT or LET GO and LET

GOD. Guilt lets us sit in between DOING and DO

>> NOTHING.

 

>> Guilt is the enemy to me. I cannot have remorse for the past because it

is gone. What >> counts is what I am doing now. Guilt involves judging

which also takes a huge amount of >> energy and time...

 

Dear Supriti ~ so much in what you wrote, that I believe I will have to save

it to read again (especially when I'm feeling guilty). I have a lot of guilt

associated with my family, past and present: "I must have done something

really bad to be treated this way." And I want to hide, put myself in jail

(where, actually, it feels a lot safer sometimes), to use your monopoly

reference,

which was a great one. As you said, if we're in jail, life is going on all

around us, and we're just sitting betwixt and between.

 

I also liked the way you used the term "standing in guilt." "Standing" is a

very strong verb; and I would prefer to see myself "standing" in Love, in

Empathy, in Creating, in Doing the work I am here to do. You may or may not be

familiar with Stephen King's, "The Stand," which was also made into a mini

series. It is a modern day parable of good against evil, and the word, "Stand,"

is very prevalent throughout. The old woman on the porch, with the cornfield

in front of her house, whom everyone visits in dreams or visions, frequently

tells her visitors, "You must STAND."

 

This reference to Stand is in other Stephen King works, and is always used

in a positive, strength way, not just to Stand against something, but to Stand

FOR something. What do we Stand for?

 

I also loved what you had to say about your grandmother. What would we have

done without them?

 

Jai Ma ~ Linda