Guest guest Posted December 28, 2005 Report Share Posted December 28, 2005 This is from the book "The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival Guide" by Ted Zeff, Ph.D. a devotee of Amma Page 120 The HSP Survival Guide There was a great spiritual teacher who adopted the name Peace Pilgrim to symbolize her life's work. As an elderly woman, she walked alone throughout North America for thirty years promoting peace. That whole time, she was never accosted (Peace Pilgrim 1994). When she was asked why no one ever bothered her, she responded that she would look at people with the deepest feelings of love, as she believed in the goodness inside of everyone. I think Peace Pilgrim would agree that the most important factor that determines harmony in relationships is your inner-state of peace and love. page 121 Harmonious Relationships for the HSP Creating Harmonious Relationships : Spend time every day in silence with your partner, family, and friends. Both parties in a relationship can agree to discuss conflict only once a week. You can write down all your grievances about the other person throughout the week, and save any conflict discussion until the appointed time. Both parties agree to pause for five seconds before responding during a disagreement. Take responsibility for your behavior. Instead of blaming others, apologize for your part in a disagreement, even if it's 1 percent. Investigate negative thoughts about other people that arise to see if they are really true. Your mind may make up negative stories about people to confirm your belief system, resulting in contentious relationships. Practice living in the present moment. When you're upset with someone you know well, try focusing your awareness in your heart, visualizing a positive experience you've had with the person until you can release the negative feelings. Utilize the technique of active listening. Practice forgiveness of others as well as yourself. Be a witness to any negative thoughts about people. Just ask yourself what the next thought will be as you simply observe the thoughts arise and disappear. Keep your sense of humor. Smile a lot. Page 122 The HSP Survival Guide Rather than silently fuming, learn ways to assert yourself in a kind manner. Plan positive activities with your friends and family: Spend time in nature, meditate together, enjoy a creative project. Use your compassion to focus on helping your family, friends, and society. Be aware of your unity with all beings, especially with pets, nature, and your connection to the Divine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2005 Report Share Posted December 28, 2005 Thank you for sharing this! I love the title of the book. On Dec 28, 2005, at 3:45 PM, amarnath wrote: > This is from the book "The Highly Sensitive Person's Survival > Guide"Â Â by Ted Zeff, Ph.D. a devotee of Amma > > Page 120Â Â Â Â Â The HSP Survival Guide > > There was a great spiritual teacher who adopted the name Peace > Pilgrim to symbolize her life's work. As an elderly woman, she walked > alone throughout North America for thirty years promoting peace. That > whole time, she was never accosted (Peace Pilgrim 1994). When she was > asked why no one ever bothered her, she responded that she would look > at people with the deepest feelings of love, as she believed in the > goodness inside of everyone. I think Peace Pilgrim would agree that > the most important factor that determines harmony in relationships is > your inner-state of peace and love. > > page 121Â Â Harmonious Relationships for the HSP > Â Â Â Â Â > Creating Harmonious Relationships : > > Spend time every day in silence with your partner, family, and > friends. > > Both parties in a relationship can agree to discuss conflict only > once a week. You can write down all your grievances about the other > person throughout the week, and save any conflict discussion until > the appointed time. > > Both parties agree to pause for five seconds before responding during > a disagreement. > > Take responsibility for your behavior. Instead of blaming others, > apologize for your part in a disagreement, even if it's 1 percent. > > Investigate negative thoughts about other people that arise to see if > they are really true. Your mind may make up negative stories about > people to confirm your belief system, resulting in contentious > relationships. > > Practice living in the present moment. > > When you're upset with someone you know well, try focusing your > awareness in your heart, visualizing a positive experience you've had > with the person until you can release the negative feelings. > > Utilize the technique of active listening. > > Practice forgiveness of others as well as yourself. > > Be a witness to any negative thoughts about people. Just ask yourself > what the next thought will be as you simply observe the thoughts > arise and disappear. > > Keep your sense of humor. Smile a lot. > > Page 122Â The HSP Survival Guide > > Rather than silently fuming, learn ways to assert yourself in a kind > manner. > Â > Plan positive activities with your friends and family: Spend time in > nature, meditate together, enjoy a creative project. > > Use your compassion to focus on helping your family, friends, and > society. > > Be aware of your unity with all beings, especially with pets, nature, > and your connection to the Divine. Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha! > > > > > > > â–ª Â Visit your group "Ammachi" on the web. > Â > â–ª Â > Â Ammachi > Â > â–ª Â Terms of > Service. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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