To Linda on courageous conversation about LOVE

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Dear Linda,

I'm glad you brother learned how to do basic domestic chores. Very

handy.While we knew how to clean and do laundry, we didn't know how to

cook either. I remember my step-sister and myself standing in my kitchen

realizing that neither one of us knew how to cook spaghetti - not a

clue. We were in our mid 20s. I was kicked out of the house and sent to

live at the YWCA without so much as a cup and a spoon - and I wouldn't

know what do do with either if I had had them! I had absolutely no self

esteem. The germs on the sidewalk were more deserving than me. This

resulted in me living my life in a very adharmic way for many years.

This is what happens when your parents are alcoholics and you are the

black sheep - the brunt of every mean joke. Somehow, due to the Divine

Mother's grace, I made it without landing in jail or living in the

street. It could have so easily happened.

Mother has done a lot of work on this child, and I am so grateful.

On the other side of the coin, I recently learned that an old

boyfriend, who I almost married when I was 22, became, well, a rather

power hungry, corporate climbing bully, who took a bad fall. Lost his

very good job, and may never work again. I don't know if criminal

charges will be brought against him or not. He was the darling of the

family, the only son with 3 sisters, and much was expected of him. Blind

ambition. Bad judgment. As a friend said, it goes to show that always

getting what you want isn't always a good thing!

The circumstances of our lives make us who we are. And if we are lucky,

and insightful enough, and most of all, have the grace, then we can change

I'm so glad that your sister was able to turn her life around. You have

much to be proud of in your sister and your niece.

So many of Mother's children have had difficult lives. Maybe it's karma,

or maybe it is the fastest way Home. All I can say is, this child would

like to learn from all this stuff.

Pranams,

Prasadini

 

nierika wrote:

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> Prasadini wrote:

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> Unfortunately, public school curriculums do not teach much that is

> practical. There are some work/study programs,

> but I don't know how successful they are. For a kid not going to

> college, they are left quite ill-prepared to function

> in the world.

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> Dear Prasadini ~ not only are children and young people not being

> prepared

> by the schools, many are not being prepared by their parents. I have

> heard my

> mother say many times how proud she is that she taught my brother how

> to cook,

> do laundry, clean, etc., so that if he didn't get married right away, he

> would be able to take care of himself. Every time I hear this story,

> I get this

> sense of dissonance because I was not taught these skills.

>

> My sister and I were talking about this recently and marveling at how

> very

> unprepared we were when we went out into the world, not just in terms of

> economic skills but in terms of personal care skills. And I will share

> this,

> though I do so with some trepidation, but we are being honest in this

> conversation. My sister became involved in the sex trade after she

> moved to NYC to study

> dance. This child came very close to becoming involved in this

> business also.

> I thank God/dess that I did not and that my sister eventually left the

> trade, although she had become an alcoholic in order to cope. But

> eventually she

> went into rehab, came out, got married, mothered her husband's two

> daughter the

> best she could, and then mothered their own child so extremely well

> that my

> 18 year old niece is in her 2nd semester of college, studying Arabic and

> languages, has held a job, and is the one of the sweetest, most

> creative and

> unassuming people I have ever know. Both are precious to me. Jai Ma

> ~ Linda

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> Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha!

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