To GeorgeSon on LOVE and the blame game

[Guest guest]

GeorgeSon wrote:

 

"LOVE IS A SUDDEN UPRISING IN THE HEART ...AN UNAVOIDABLE, UNOBSTRACTABLE

LONGING FOR ONENESS"

 

Can anyone find an comparable quote in spiritual circles?

 

Does the blame game aid or detract from the "longing for oneness"?

 

 

 

Dear GeorgeSon ~ That quote rang a bell with me. I am certain I have read

it, or something very much like it, especially the part about the "Love is a

sudden uprising in the heart," but when I looked in the three books I have been

reading I couldn't find it. I probably could find it if I spent a lot of time

going back through these books ("Awaken Children, Vol. 1,The Road to

Freedom, Vol. 1 and 11"). It would be nice if people who quote Amma would give

the attributions for the quotes, but then we'd be in a close to perfect world,

where everyone always things of everything. LOL

 

My experience is that the blame game detracts from oneness, whether it is

spiritual oneness or oneness with one's loved ones, with friends, etc.) In the

act of placing blame, my experience is that the act itself creates separation.

I know because I have a lot of experience with this, especially with my

parents.

 

With my father, it was only when I let go of ALL expectations of him that my

own feelings toward him changed. Interestingly, our relationship also

changed, and for the last few years of his life, we had the relationship I had

always hoped for. My feelings around my issues with my mother are new (or

discovering that there were issues in childhood along with the new), and I am

still

in the anger, grief, denial stage. I hope I can get to the letting go stage

before she dies so I can truly love her again. Unfortunately, it seems that

letting go of blame or hurt or anger, which are just other forms of blame, is a

process. It takes time, yet at the same time, when it finally happens, it

seems instantaneous. What a paradox. At the very least, I can do better at

controlling what comes out of my mouth and quit bemoaning the things I feel most

hurt by. If we can't control our thoughts, we can start by controlling our

words (and, in the digest terms, what we write upon the page).

 

Here is something Amma said, as written in "Awaken Children, Vol. 1":

"...selfless service, even-mindedness, seeing good even in the mistakes of

others; these are the things which Mother wants from you children...Do not

think of your own comfort. Do not think even for a moment that 'this is my

body.'

See everything as your own Atman. ..listen carefully and oserve

even-mindedness...Aversion should be felt towards anyone. Like a river flowing

without

hindrance, let your mind flow with the sound, 'Hrim.' ...there is only one

Self...omnipresent and omnipotent. When our minds become expansive, we can

merge

with that infinite Self...There will only be vastness and everything will be

equal..." p. 151

 

I'm not sure this quote exactly address your question about the blame game

directly, but certainly, it points the way. As for this child, I feel I am

standing at the beginning of a very loooog path, my walking stick in hand (my

balance isn't always so good) and realizing what a distance I still have to

travel to reach the Goal. And yet, at the same moment, I know, from my own

direct experience, that the Goal is already here, with me where I stand, if only

I

can realize it.

 

Thank you, as always, for raising such thought-provoking questions.

 

Jai Jai Ma ~ Linda