RE: to Rena on bypassing normal human emotions is not spiritual

[Guest guest]

Namah Shivaya.

There seems to be a sentiment here that to mourn, grieve,

completely "lose it" over losing a child would somehow indicate some

spiritual strength or enlightenment...I don't believe that to be

true...bypassing normal human emotions is not spiritual.

 

Just remember Amma sitting with the families of those who died in the

tsunami with tears running down her face...

- Rena

 

MY REPLY ~~~~~~~~~~~~~

my limited understanding is that amma teaches us by example ~ she

will show human emotions( and in her presence ) you also will feel it

at a very deep level ~ but she will not dwell on it (too long) as

most of us would ~ there are quotes by her where she says ~ (my

paraphrase from memmory ) ~ feel the grief very deeply, sincerely,

genuinly and then let go and go forward ~ please check out the video(

embracing the world ) where amma gives this type of advice to the nyc

911 firefightter ~ perhaps someone can express this better ~

hope this helps ~ please forgive my ego for any mistakes ~

 

~ amma's child not wanting to hurt or misslead anyone in thought or

words,

amarnath

[Guest guest]

I think, therefore I'm not. lol...My father had taught me to use

humor in the most difficult situations (and I still am not getting

paid!). He always found a way to bring some glimmer of joy into our

pain-at every loss, every funeral, every setback. I was taught that

there is always some positive outcome that we cannot always see at

hand-no matter how dreadful. That the experience brings something we

will use later-maybe to help another, to deepen our attachment to

God.

 

I don't have an answer on any of this, of course. I only know that my

heart breaks for my friend whose daughter has died. I grieved when I

lost my father-though I still felt "balanced" inside overall. I knew

that Amma was with me through my loss and it was so much easier to

bear. I could speak at my dad's funeral fairly easily. Later one of

my brothers asked how I was able to do it without breaking down-as

all of them had. And certainly, I do not see a thing wrong with that

either. My dear mother who had gone to see Amma (get a mantra and all-

despite being quite the agnostic on our trip to see Her. She burst

into tears whenever Amma entered the hall...smile...)-remarked, "that

is what happens when you do meditation." I was a bit struck.

 

Grief is a door we all must walk through. Thankfully we have Amma's

showering love and grace to see us through the hard times life

brings. We all handle it differently and just need to respect each

person's uniqueness. We need to just love one another the best way

that we can-and then to just keep trying. May Amma shine Her light on

us to show us this Love.

 

in devotion to Amma

adriane