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[Guest guest]

Dear Malati,

 

i learned this sadhana spontaneously around Amma. My normal

tendency around others was to jump in, give my opinions and

convert everyone to my "right way". This of course was usually a

recipe for conflict.

 

After Amma's darshan one time, an unusual wave of peace

came over me. I felt humbled and quiet. I was noticing my own

mind's arrogance.

 

We went to lunch and sat with a large group. they began

discussing politics and religion. Normally, I jump in with tons of

my "right" opinions. This time I just sat back and listened.

Involved non-involvement. I felt so peaceful, feeling like I did not

have to "correct" anyone. I felt the inner Amma helping me to

restrain myself, to avoid my normal compulsions.

 

Being gently detached does not mean you do not do seva with

compassion. It means you do it more effectively, because the

know it all ego is not judging everyone. Also, the world is the way

it is. Acceptance. The attempt to "fix" the world is impossible,

absolutely HOPELESS. The minute I put my nose in other

people's business, I notice that suffering is the result. People

resent it.

 

But, from that perspective, that is being totally detached from

expectations and desire for results, we can FIX OURSELVES by

being truly loving and compassionate.

 

For me, Ive found that the best way to be compassionate and

loving is to allow others to be who they are and love them without

judgement. Easier said then done.

 

Sometime, watch the cute little flute playing Swami, who covers

his head. Nothing ruffles him. He is always gentle and kind. I

don't notice him running about being "upset" about how bad the

world is etc, etc. It is we beginning devotees who seem to be

running around upset.

 

Amma's total involvement and tears for others is done in a state

of Sahaja Samadhi....totally transformed..You can just feel the

anoiting of peace even when she is "angry"...she is flowing like a

river. my attempts to fix the world are usually done in a state of

Blame Placing Anger Bhava!

 

Jai MA!

 

 

 

 

>

> << In other words, the essence of our upset is our own

judgement of how

> we think things "should be". Acceptance of things as they are

with

> gentle detachment and love brings a quiet joy, the feeling like

life

> is a really great movie that we have the grace to watch, but it is

a

> very subtle practice. It Takes ALOT of shradda (spelling?). >>

>

> gentle detachment, quiet joy. Is that how you see the path of

divine

> compassion? That being upset is a sign of "stuff" and

judgement??????

>

> that doesnt sound like deep love and compassion. It sounds

like a place

> people have judged to be deep love, peace and compassion.

Just another judgement of

> what is or is not spiritual.

> In Loves Service

> malati

[Guest guest]

Wow!

 

I didn't think anyone spoke (or even undersood) that language. Glad

to know about you ..... thanks for writing how I have ALWAYS felt

about my place in the world, and how I feel about about interacting

with the people and the things in it.

 

Detached compassion ... I find that almost no one relates to that

idea, yet I live on. and sometimes I think I am nuts to be feeling

that way.... thanks for showing that i am not alone.

 

Jai Ma indeed!

 

Ammachi, "ckeniley2003" <ckeniley2003>

wrote:

>

>

> Dear Malati,

>

> i learned this sadhana spontaneously around Amma. My normal

> tendency around others was to jump in, give my opinions and

> convert everyone to my "right way". This of course was usually a

> recipe for conflict.

>

> After Amma's darshan one time, an unusual wave of peace

> came over me. I felt humbled and quiet. I was noticing my own

> mind's arrogance.

>

> We went to lunch and sat with a large group. they began

> discussing politics and religion. Normally, I jump in with tons of

> my "right" opinions. This time I just sat back and listened.

> Involved non-involvement. I felt so peaceful, feeling like I did

not

> have to "correct" anyone. I felt the inner Amma helping me to

> restrain myself, to avoid my normal compulsions.

>

> Being gently detached does not mean you do not do seva with

> compassion. It means you do it more effectively, because the

> know it all ego is not judging everyone. Also, the world is the

way

> it is. Acceptance. The attempt to "fix" the world is impossible,

> absolutely HOPELESS. The minute I put my nose in other

> people's business, I notice that suffering is the result. People

> resent it.

>

> But, from that perspective, that is being totally detached from

> expectations and desire for results, we can FIX OURSELVES by

> being truly loving and compassionate.

>

> For me, Ive found that the best way to be compassionate and

> loving is to allow others to be who they are and love them without

> judgement. Easier said then done.

>

> Sometime, watch the cute little flute playing Swami, who covers

> his head. Nothing ruffles him. He is always gentle and kind. I

> don't notice him running about being "upset" about how bad the

> world is etc, etc. It is we beginning devotees who seem to be

> running around upset.

>

> Amma's total involvement and tears for others is done in a state

> of Sahaja Samadhi....totally transformed..You can just feel the

> anoiting of peace even when she is "angry"...she is flowing like a

> river. my attempts to fix the world are usually done in a state

of

> Blame Placing Anger Bhava!

>

> Jai MA!