Jump to content
IndiaDivine.org

Dealing with other people's Stuff

Rate this topic


Guest guest

Recommended Posts

Guest guest

This is such a good sadhana topic!

 

When dealing with so called other people's stuff, it takes real

humility to realize: Its all "Our stuff", not really other peoples

stuff. ALL of it. If anything is disturbing our peace...it is our

stuff. Boy, does marriage pound this lesson home!!!! We are the

perpetrators of our own suffering.

 

If we have the thought, for example: my mother needs to stop

drinking alcohol, this really upsets me, ....the way to get at this

would be ...is it really absolutely true that my mother needs to

stop drinking? After all is that really my business what another

does or doesn't do? How would I behave around my mother without the

thought that my mother needs to stop drinking ?

 

Usually the root of our "upset" is our own uninvestigated belief or

story about others around us, which in the end is our own story

about ourselves!. In essence we are not allowing the reality around

us to be just as it is.

 

In other words, the essence of our upset is our own judgement of how

we think things "should be". Acceptance of things as they are with

gentle detachment and love brings a quiet joy, the feeling like life

is a really great movie that we have the grace to watch, but it is a

very subtle practice. It Takes ALOT of shradda (spelling?).

 

This doesn't mean that you don't participate or do seva. It means

that you don't bring your judgement and storyline into your helping.

 

Jai MA!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Guest guest

In a message dated 3/9/05 11:46:50 PM Eastern Standard Time,

ckeniley2003 writes:

 

<< In other words, the essence of our upset is our own judgement of how

we think things "should be". Acceptance of things as they are with

gentle detachment and love brings a quiet joy, the feeling like life

is a really great movie that we have the grace to watch, but it is a

very subtle practice. It Takes ALOT of shradda (spelling?). >>

 

gentle detachment, quiet joy. Is that how you see the path of divine

compassion? That being upset is a sign of "stuff" and judgement??????

 

that doesnt sound like deep love and compassion. It sounds like a place

people have judged to be deep love, peace and compassion. Just another judgement

of

what is or is not spiritual.

In Loves Service

malati

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Loading...
×
×
  • Create New...