Guest guest Posted August 16, 2004 Report Share Posted August 16, 2004 Re: Mothers, the hearts of us all I am in a very similar situation . Though my borthers and sisters are in the same city no one wants to take the responsiblity of taking care of an aging mother. Due to differences between my wife and my mother I cannot keep her at my home. I constanty find myself negotiating between my sisters as to who looks afer her. The above situation and my situation at home has taken a huge toll on my mental happiness. I find myself crying to Amma everyday for the last 10 years to resolve this situation amicably. I am still waiting for amm's decision. I wonder how many of us are in such a situatin and how once copes with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2004 Report Share Posted August 16, 2004 Om Namah Shivayah, Is Mama trouble in the stars right now? My Mom recently attempted suicide (2nd time), and the family has now asked me to chose to either put her in a state institution (where it is likely she will be abused) or to spend my inheritance putting her in a private institution. Of course I do not want her to suffer further, but I had planned on using that money to get to India someday, and it's hard to swallow my disapointment, as well as my frustration with her. Yesterday at temple I was praying for guidance, my heart says help this child in distress, but don't expect any thanks or applause. I'm just so sad because I've been waiting for India for so many years. I also wish that there was some way I could help my mom to heal her deep emotional and mental wounds, but she already thinks I abandoned her for Amma, which is kind of true. Ah, well. Say a prayer for her, friends. love, Prajna --- Bhattathiry <mulavana wrote: > Re: Mothers, the hearts of us all > > I am in a very similar situation . Though my > borthers and sisters are in the same city no one > wants to take the responsiblity of taking care of an > aging mother. Due to differences between my wife and > my mother I cannot keep her at my home. I constanty > find myself negotiating between my sisters as to who > looks afer her. The above situation and my situation > at home has taken a huge toll on my mental > happiness. I find myself crying to Amma everyday for > the last 10 years to resolve this situation > amicably. I am still waiting for amm's decision. > I wonder how many of us are in such a situatin and > how once copes with it. > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ===== sarvabhauma_yoga/ Mail is new and improved - Check it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2004 Report Share Posted August 16, 2004 - Brianna Mosteller Ammachi Monday, August 16, 2004 4:43 PM Re: How to help mother Namaste, Your post hit really close to home for me and, while I cannot tell you what Amma would ask of you, I can share what She told me. I could scarcely wait to be back with Mother in IA this summer and was particularly looking forward to Devi Bhava. Unfortunately, my daughter tore her knee and had to have surgery in Milwaukee very, very early the next morning -and wanted me to be there since she is divorced and alone. I love both of my children dearly, but I did not want to skip being with Amma to go to my daughter - but I was also very uncertain about staying in IA and making it so obvious to my family that Mother comes first (this reticence is still haunting me - I KNOW who should come first and who I want to put first and am disappointed in myself that I cannot fully make that surrender yet). Anyway, to make a long story short, I was able to ask Mother a question this year and explained the situation, then asked Her how I should balance my need for Her with my daughter's need for me. Amma told me that I must go when my children call with real need - but I was also to stay for Devi Bhava and She would see that I stayed awake while driving all night and that I arrived safely and on time! I don't know if this helps you at all, but in light of the response I recieved, I bet if you used your $ to care for your mother, you'd find money falling your way later to go to India. With love and sympathy, At Mother's lotus feet, Snehalata Om Namah Shivayah, Is Mama trouble in the stars right now? My Mom recently attempted suicide (2nd time), and the family has now asked me to chose to either put her in a state institution (where it is likely she will be abused) or to spend my inheritance putting her in a private institution. Of course I do not want her to suffer further, but I had planned on using that money to get to India someday, and it's hard to swallow my disapointment, as well as my frustration with her. Yesterday at temple I was praying for guidance, my heart says help this child in distress, but don't expect any thanks or applause. I'm just so sad because I've been waiting for India for so many years. I also wish that there was some way I could help my mom to heal her deep emotional and mental wounds, but she already thinks I abandoned her for Amma, which is kind of true. Ah, well. Say a prayer for her, friends. love, Prajna --- Bhattathiry <mulavana wrote: > Re: Mothers, the hearts of us all > > I am in a very similar situation . Though my > borthers and sisters are in the same city no one > wants to take the responsiblity of taking care of an > aging mother. Due to differences between my wife and > my mother I cannot keep her at my home. I constanty > find myself negotiating between my sisters as to who > looks afer her. The above situation and my situation > at home has taken a huge toll on my mental > happiness. I find myself crying to Amma everyday for > the last 10 years to resolve this situation > amicably. I am still waiting for amm's decision. > I wonder how many of us are in such a situatin and > how once copes with it. > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ===== sarvabhauma_yoga/ Mail is new and improved - Check it out! Aum Amriteswarayai Namaha! Ammachi/ b.. Ammachi c.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2004 Report Share Posted August 16, 2004 My first thought on reading this was- serve your mother as you would serve Amma, because isn't that ultimately that what she is trying to show us?- that we are all the same self. This also ties in with the story balakrishnan just posted- that Amma is trying to get us to see *each other* as God, having no real interest in how we see *her*. Then you may just find your way to India! just a thought, frangi. Ammachi, Brianna Mosteller <rubyrapunzel> wrote: > Om Namah Shivayah, > > Is Mama trouble in the stars right now? My Mom > recently attempted suicide (2nd time), and the family > has now asked me to chose to either put her in a state > institution (where it is likely she will be abused) or > to spend my inheritance putting her in a private > institution. Of course I do not want her to suffer > further, but I had planned on using that money to get > to India someday, and it's hard to swallow my > disapointment, as well as my frustration with her. > Yesterday at temple I was praying for guidance, my > heart says help this child in distress, but don't > expect any thanks or applause. I'm just so sad because > I've been waiting for India for so many years. > > I also wish that there was some way I could help my > mom to heal her deep emotional and mental wounds, but > she already thinks I abandoned her for Amma, which is > kind of true. Ah, well. Say a prayer for her, friends. > > love, > Prajna > --- Bhattathiry <mulavana@a...> wrote: > > > Re: Mothers, the hearts of us all > > > > I am in a very similar situation . Though my > > borthers and sisters are in the same city no one > > wants to take the responsiblity of taking care of an > > aging mother. Due to differences between my wife and > > my mother I cannot keep her at my home. I constanty > > find myself negotiating between my sisters as to who > > looks afer her. The above situation and my situation > > at home has taken a huge toll on my mental > > happiness. I find myself crying to Amma everyday for > > the last 10 years to resolve this situation > > amicably. I am still waiting for amm's decision. > > I wonder how many of us are in such a situatin and > > how once copes with it. > > > > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > > removed] > > > > > > > > ===== > sarvabhauma_yoga/ > > > > > > > Mail is new and improved - Check it out! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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