Amma Anasuya Devi/Relationships: Part 3

[Guest guest]

continued fromr Pat 2:

 

"They should attend to their respective duties. The husband must go

o t into world, work hard and earn their livelihood: she must stay at

home and attend to cooking and other domestic responsibilities. She

is ddscribed as a "Sahadharmacharini" or a devout companion. If they

waive those principles, their very avocations get wayward.

 

"The husband must teach his wife to accept both pleasure and pain.

He must enable her even to receive pain as though it were a

pleasure. I do not approve of his actions if he tries to see that

she never faces suffering. Ond day Mr. "X"' to please his wife, took

his children into the house and sat by her side. It is such things

that I do not like. He thought that by merely sitting in the other

room at a distance, he would not be pleasing her. It was he that had

made such things a habit with her. I say that one should not do such

things and one should not be so overindulgent. When either of the

wife or the husband is bedridden, certainly one should serve the

other. But to do so at all times is bad. Of course these days there

seems to be only familiarity between the couples but there is no

regard, fear or respect."

 

Now someone asked Mother whether there should be no friendship at all

between the couple. Mother replied: "There can be friendship

between them; but it should not be allowed to transgress its limits.

Friendship should not oust devotion and regard totally from their

hearts. When it does, such a relationship does not deserve the name

of friendship. It seems as though they are there only to meet one

another's needs--just as meals is there to quench hunger! Marital

relationship nowadays seems to exist as a means of satisfying merely

physical desires and for no higher purpose." She said, obliquely

referring to their sexual needs.

 

Continued..