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10.0pt;font-family:Arial;color:black">Disappointments a re part and parcel of

life. In this circus of existence, you cannot have your way all the time.

Things change; people change. Events and results have an unpredictable and

uncontrollable way of happening. To keep yourself from

being utterly frustrated and dismayed, here are some things to avoid or at

least soften the pangs of great disappointment:

1. Expect the best but be ready for the worst.

When you work hard on something, it's natural to expect the best results. And

the most glorious rewards. But sometimes things don't turn out the way you want

them to. To keep from being dreadfully dismayed, expect the best, but at the

same time, psyche yourself up for the worst. Then you'll be ready for any

unexpected turn of events!

2. Give it your best shot.

Much of the frustration that follows a failure is the big disappointment you

feel towards yourself. When you do not try hard enough, you are overcome with

guilt and regret. In whatever you are doing, do your best,

give it your best shot. Then youll know you did all

you can and you should be proud for trying.

3. Realize that you cannot own people.

We often expect people to act or be a certain way that would be congruous to

how we want them to be. Realize that you do not and can not own people. Each

person has his own mind and the natural right to free will. Give others the

gift of space and freedom. Remember that when you lose someone, whatever you

were expecting was not meant to be.

4. Realize that we are just temporary stewards of things.

When you lose material things, whether they are stolen from you or gutted down

by a fire, minimize your grief by realizing that we are just temporary keepers

of what we own. They will finally find their way to where they were destined to

be. Besides, when you finally go, you cannot take a single thing with you.

5. Never expect anything back.

People get bitterly disappointed when they don't get back what they give to

others. People always expect (some even demand!) repayment. This is a major

cause of extreme frustration. When you help someone (especially financially) do

not expect anything back. Think of it as a gift of love

that's given freely and completely with no strings attached.

6 . Don't pin your life on one person.

You would be doing yourself a great injustice if you pinned your life on one

person. No one person should take control, importance or dominance over your

existence. People come and go in our lives. If you depend too much on someone,

you will feel so shattered, helpless and hopeless if you lose him. Make sure

you can stand on your own two feet. And live your own dreams, not other people's.

7. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

To avoid disappointment from losing anything, don't put all your eggs in one

basket. It's a good practice to have more than one project happening so that

when one fails, you have others to look forward to.

Regarding financial investment, it is wise to diversify. The more things you

have going, the less the chance of losing it all.

8. Realize that success is a combination of many factors.

You do not have full control over the outcome of things. Even with all the

necessary preparations and precautions, things may end up differently from how

you want them to. There are many factors and variables that determine how

something or an event will turn out. And that includes the weather!

9. Realize that you will always get another chance.

If you don't succeed now, there will always be another time. Tell yourself that

maybe it just isn't the right time yet for what you desire. Keep in mind that

you will always get another chance to get a crack at it. Never lose hope. Hope

springs eternal.

10. Realize that without defeat, victory won't be as sweet.

You have to feel the bitterness of failure to be able to savor the sweetness of

success. Failures make you strong and powerful. Use them as a challenge for

more determination to go after your dreams next time. Analyze why you failed

and learn from your mistakes.

11. Realize that the universe has its own divine plan.

Yes indeed, the universe has a divine design. It has its own unchangeable,

unique plan which may be very different from yours. You may not understand it

at all for now, but it is something you have to force yourself to live with.

Going against the current will just frustrate you. Do what the Zen masters

preach: Go with the flow!

12. When things turn out awry, it's not the end of the world.

The world will not end just because something did not turn out the way you

expected it to. It will keep on turning even if you cried a bathtub of tears in

your own little dark corner. So dry your eyes and erase those disappointments.

Hey, Friends! flash on a smile! Tomorrow is another

day.

In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great

love.

~ Mother Teresa

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